The Curious Nature of Money

The Curious Nature of Money

“Looking closely at money does seem to open up more questions than answers”

Even so, questions are important, and discussing money, so we can lose some of the potential stress and misunderstandings surrounding it, will be of great value (excuse the pun).

Often when seeking to understand money, we’re given advice and guidance that relates directly to its management: how best to save, invest, earn etc. All well and good, however, there is something of fundamental importance, that’s often overlooked: The Psychology.

The Curious Nature of Money

Time and money bear a close correlation. For example, we want that new car, bike or pair of shoes, but don’t currently have the cash available. So rather than waiting, until we’ve saved enough, we borrow. Buy now pay later. You might think fair enough. If we’re prepared to pay the interest on the loan, we’re able to enjoy the goods now, rather than later. But what is the psychology behind this thinking.

“What is buy now pay later really all about. Is this a lack of patience? Is it just a social thing? Or is it that our wants are greater than our needs?”

I’m able to compare my own experience of being young and broke with someone who is currently just starting out in life. When I was sixteen I didn’t have the cash to buy the moped I desperately needed, so, with my father acting as guarantor, I borrowed. It turned out to be a mistake – I borrowed more than I could afford – and my father had been foolish to allow it. He’d been unable to advise me otherwise. In comparison, I’m aware of a young man who, even though his earning capacity is restricted, has successfully managed to save enough money to buy his first moped. He’s also now saving for his next bike; a bigger one. He has no debt. To be able to put the words young and patient together, in the same sentence, is a very rare thing.

“We can know this is down to several potential factors”

Firstly he hasn’t been able to borrow money (no guarantor) or secondly he’s been cleverly advised out of it. The chances are, his beliefs – formed from advice and experience – have created a positive time/money correlation. In other words, he’s learned patience in its respect.

Home Ownership

Of course saving for a moped is one thing, yet buying a house for example, would be an entirely different matter. With the property market as it is, it would be nigh on impossible for the average person to ever save enough to buy one outright. He or she would be so old, by the time they’d saved enough, that they’d never have the chance to enjoy it. Plus we have the problem of house prices always increasing way above the rate of pay increases. And isn’t that a curious thing? The gap between the rich and the poor ever increasing do you think?

“Anyway Let’s Not Get Distracted!”

That last paragraph does all hinge on our beliefs relating to home ownership. Provided we’re able to find a decent landlord we can be quite happy renting. If you’ve no concerns over leaving inheritance to family members (or cat charities,) then owning your own home, is in fact a bit of a nonsense. We can all be sold on the idea of having no mortgage in retirement, but that can be offset, with the belief that retirement is a complete nonsense too. Retire from what? There are many ways we can stay as wage earners in old age. Society actually requires input from the older generation. This is in much the same way children (mostly) benefit from knowing grandparents.

The Curious Nature of Money

We could go on and on with the debate over money, yet there is one simple answer to removing much of the stress surrounding it. I touched on this earlier. It’s that thing of our wants being greater than our needs. Once we can reach a point in our lives where our wants match our needs we’ll be in a favourable position. The sooner the better. This is the time/money correlation in its essence.

“Doing this involves some cleverness”

If, at the age of sixteen, I’d been a little more canny and wise to the world, I could have avoided much of the stress and difficulties I’ve experienced ever since. If someone had said to me:

“Look kiddo, here’s the thing, you’re being fucked over by your own wants and your wanting is being driven by your beliefs on happiness.”

“Right now you believe the only root to your happiness is that moped, right? Okay, so what would need to happen for you to find this freedom and happiness without it?”

That last question would certainly be a mind-bomb for the average sixteen year old. It would probably be the case, that suggestions from someone I believed in and respected, would’ve been necessary. Perhaps, if such a person had introduced me to an inexpensive hobby, things would have worked out differently. Perhaps, if it’d been explained – in clear and simple terms – that happiness and freedom must begin in the mind, and never outside of it, things would have been very different.

The Curious Nature of Money

All in all, there’s no getting away from the facts of life: We will always need sufficient money to cater for our basic needs and independence. Without that we’ve no chance of happiness, and to add to our misery, illness is potentially around every corner.

“So to close”

Hopefully this has opened up your mind a little to the subject in hand. I would question the belief that money buys happiness. Without our basic needs being met, we’ll be unhappy, that’s a given. However, our attitude of mind, mentality and belief system, has great bearing on the amount of stress and unhappiness we might experience around the subject. It’s really worth pondering on the time/money correlation. Surly it’s the case, the wiser we are and the sooner we find this wisdom, the happier we will be from the offset?

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Highly Strung

Highly-strung

“Having just spent the last half-hell-hour with an extremely highly-strung person, I thought it prudent, to write about it”

I didn’t plan on writing today, however, due to the therapeutic benefits of writing, here goes. I’m going to break down the nature of ‘highly-strung’ a little, as this might be of benefit, to all of us.

If you suspect you’re of a highly strung nature, you might find it hard to give this your full attention, or even believe you have time for it. So the advice would be: chill out a little, as the following might actually award you some time, by helping you live longer.

Now, it’s not that I’d describe myself as a particularly overly chilled-out kind of person, (you know the sort: dopey, doesn’t give a shit, acting stoned) yet I do find being with highly-strung people, quite stressful.

“To help explain, I’m going to share something with you: I have high frequency deafness”

In relation to deafness, and because it’s happening right now, I’m going to compare the company of highly-strung people, with listening to seagulls. In this moment as I write, I can hear the very unpleasant screeching of seagulls (I have my hearing aids in) but interestingly enough, in the background, there’s the rather melodic cooing sound of a wood pigeon.

“I’m the wood pigeon and my highly strung nemesis is the seagull”

I hear wood pigeons without wearing my hearing aids (lower frequency sound) and only hear seagulls when they’re fitted. You might now ask: “Why don’t you just take your hearing aids out, or switch them off, if you don’t want to hear seagulls?” And I would answer: ‘I just fucking have!’

Anyway, the only reason I’ve been wearing my hearing aids this morning, is because I’ve needed to hear people. Sometimes the aids make that easier. Often, hearing less – of the general screeching of life – would be favourable, by just leaving them out.

Alternative View: The Disease Cures You

With that in mind, what is the alternative view of my deafness? That’s right, escape! Life without hearing aids is often a little gentler and less stressful. Most, it would seem, are living their lives on a slightly different frequency to me: a much higher one!

One twig at a time
One Twig At A Time

It’s my belief, that if we rounded off the corners, and reduced all the sharpness of life, things would be slightly more pleasant. Running around doing everything at high speed is ultimately pointless. Most of us are looking to cram far too much in. We’ve no time for this or that because we’re too busy doing the other. The thing to consider here is this: Being so busy doing the other is potentially as much a means of escape, as my deafness.

“My deafness helps me escape the manic madness of it all, and the manic madness, helps others escape their unfortunate realities”

The reality faced by a highly-strung person, looked at objectively, isn’t a very pleasant one. They’re in a place of fear. People might say to me: “Gosh how unfortunate you are to have a disability.” I would respond by saying we all have our disabilities but most remain oblivious to them. They remain oblivious to their fear and how they’re dealing with it.

Fear

For example, the highly strung person I spent time with this morning, is in a place of fear. She’s recently been promoted to a position that way exceeds her resources. Because of this, she uses her ability to act manic and highly-strung (around calm people) in order to try and intimidate them. In actual fact it’s the method she uses to bully people. Bully those who aren’t aware of her fear that is.

So even though it’s sometimes a method used for intimidation; fearful, highly-strung behaviour, is definitely a disability. Coming back to my point about time, I have as much of this as I need, in order to help people understand their behaviour. Once we have the correct point of view, time is a companion, walking alongside us.

Drugs

So to sum up, highly-strung, is highly wasteful. Those who take speed or cocaine are looking to change their perception of time. They want to chemically alter their conscious perceptions. The alternative, to being inside our heads in this way, is to see ourselves objectively. This enables us to alter things without the need for drugs or manic behaviour.

“Self-obsessed differs greatly to self-possessed”

The highly-strung need to take charge. If not, they’ll continue to waste their lives, perceiving very little. Chill Out Man. Stop screeching like a seagull. Be the wood pigeon I hear so clearly.

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Who or What is God?

Who or What is God?

We can never know the answer to that question

The thing about God is we can neither prove nor disprove His existence. You might think this convenient for those who believe in Him. Perhaps you’d be right with that. For those who do believe in God The Creator, all they need do, is look around and see proof of His existence, everywhere. The belief is sufficient for them to totally negate the realities of evolutionary processes.

And then we have the dilemma of who started that process. Who’s to say it wasn’t God, who planted that first seed, triggering what resulted from a few amino acids, some billions of years ago. To some it’s simply a game of numbers: enough suns with exoplanets, mixed with a lot of heat, chemicals etc., and eventually you’ll get life. But who’s to say it wasn’t a being of higher consciousness, that created the gases and chemicals, that made all the suns to begin with. We could go on forever with that argument, couldn’t we?

The Believers

At the end of the day beliefs are all it comes down to. Beliefs will always be blind to evidence for or against. Think of the web of beliefs, relating to God or Gods, that have been created by man. Over thousands of years they’ve been constructed as a means of explaining the unexplainable: who we are, why we’re here and so on.

“Beliefs are a means of explaining but also a means of shifting responsibility. A means of empowering some, and at the same time, disempowering others”

Think of those who believe that God is in some way responsible for their suffering. They say: “I’m suffering and this is God’s will.” In other words they’re saying: “I have no choice.” To believe that a higher force has control over what happens to us during our lives, is defeatist for some, and empowering for others. Those who are in control of the rules, the religious leaders, live off the back of these kinds of beliefs. It’s useful, for these particular human beings, for their subjects to feel they have no choice; that it’s God’s will no matter what’s happening to them.

On the positives of beliefs in God

Think of those who believe they are in some way chosen; that their good fortune can be attributed to the grace of God. Such people have been hated all through history. To make such a claim no doubt causes the claimant to stick out somewhat. A bit like the proverbial sore thumb hit with a hammer wouldn’t you say? They feel they’re looked on favourably by God. The advantage to this is, if you actually believe it, then you will be. Your mind has reason to believe that you will have a blessed and fortunate life. It is God’s will that you should prosper. Perhaps we should all have some of that!

Just yesterday I became engaged in conversation with a fellow blogger. Obviously a very intelligent young man who, even after some well placed argument, still insisted that God is responsible for suffering. I told him how I understood suffering to be a choice. How suffering has been devised by man for the control of other men.

For example, if we lock a man in a cell, and because isolation is against the instincts of man, he will suffer. However, if he trains his mind sufficiently, he can actually adjust to his isolation. He can begin to accept and potentially even enjoy it. But until this is the case, he’s at the mercy of his captors; totally under their control. Ask yourself this: Is a homeless man, who has adjusted to life on the streets, free or as trapped as we are? The average man has many, many chains, to bind him.

It is always a choice as to whether we suffer or not.

To my fellow blogger I also mentioned the flip side of all this. How those who suffer are teaching guilt. How they’re telling the rest of us: “I am suffering, so you must help me.” Their suffering is buying them something. It’s getting them a level of control over the people who surround them. Much in the same way a child will gain attention from its carers when in pain.

The child will learn that pain gets attention. Occasionally such a child will grow to adopt the “I’m suffering” angle as an adult. They do this in order to gain the illusion of power over others. To gain power over a system. It is of course a nonsense and an illusion; a fragile one at that. What the sufferer doesn’t realise is, their choice to behave in such a way, is to behave as a child all their life; so very wasteful wouldn’t you say? To waste a life. To then claim, their suffering is God’s will, is just another means of not taking personal responsibility. “It’s not my fault” they say.

I told my fellow blogger the tale of man I once new whose wife had died unexpectedly young. All this widowed man did was mope and moan. He suffered for years in his grief. I told him about choice and he shouted: “Oh, so I chose for my wife to die?!” I said: ‘No but you are choosing to maintain your suffering.’ He didn’t thank me, that’s for sure, and yet probably changed at a later date.

A Childish Concept

When we take a step back and consider the kind of things said, relating to God, we can see them as a construct from the childish human mind. The idea of prayer. An afterlife (there is one of sorts, think of the lifespan of an atom, it’s a very, very long time). Virgin births without medical explanation; that our destiny is out of our hands. Remember, many of these beliefs only suit those in power. Religions keep us in our place. Religions keep us powerless and subservient to the antiquated beliefs, that are serving to maintain the easy lives, of the powerful. Royalty and religious leaders live of the back of our continued ignorance.

“All in all, to think we can have any idea – of the what and who of God – is an absurdity”

Staying with childish thoughts for a moment. If there was a higher being, able to create the universe and everything within it, how could we, with our level of consciousness, ever possibly understand this. With our minds, as they currently are, we can only just touch on the realities of what surrounds us. We are simply not conscious enough to properly conceive of a consciousness that could create all that we see. At the present time we can only guess, with our childish notions, of what this is really all about.

One thing we can conceive of is time. We have a small sense of its passing. The universe is old, very old, and it’s true to say, a lot can be achieved if you have enough time. Perhaps that’s all we’re really dealing with. After all, there are very good odds of extraordinary things happening, when given enough time. Time is all we have. Be the master of your own destiny. Contact Us.

Intention: A Beautiful State of Mind

“There’s a certain chemistry required to achieve a beautiful state of mind”

When you’ve found it you’ll know it. It’s a place of calm certainty that’s felt when everything is just ‘so’ and you’ve let certain things go.

It’s not a state of mind to be maintained. We’re not looking for a constant, meditative state, where we’ve practically switched off. If we had that, we’d never get anything done . However, we do need moments of certainty, and moments of calm. Without them, there’s no rest and no pause from the madness, of modern life.

“The way we find this state is to set ourselves a goal and then reach a place in our minds where we just know – with absolute certainty – that we’re on the right track!”

There may not even be any kind of tangible results from our efforts yet. However, it’s just a sense that everything’s been setup, to the best of our current ability. Although we know we can’t sit back on our laurels for too long, we can give ourselves permission to rest awhile, and allow things to develop as we intend.

“Sometimes it’s good to give yourself permission to accept you’ve done your best; it’s enough. The universe can do without your input, at least for a short while, anyway”

There is one important question here though: What is your intention? We do need a little tension in our lives after all. It’s this tension that pulls us along and motivates us to take that next step. Contact Us if you’d like to know more about achieving A Beautiful State of Mind. We must remember: procrastination is the thief of time.    

Recognise Opportunity

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The Time Machine of Opportunity

“Take a moment to pause and consider something interesting”

You’ve found this post. You’re taking the time to read these words. You’re seeking information. This information may simply be for entertainment purposes, or perhaps, you’re seeking something very specific. The thing to consider though, is what you are in fact not, considering: The hidden unconscious, metaphysical reasons, for you being here.

When we consider this, we tune our attention to something mysterious, perhaps magical, yet more importantly, we’re tuning in to the links and connections between everything. The links and connections between all things that we have no conscious awareness of. Until, that is, this moment now.

“What, if the reason for your attention, to this post and its words, has been drawn by forces beyond what you’re usually aware of?”

Most, at this point, will have now lost interest. The reason, for the short range of their attention, is often due to not finding anything that matches their expectations. Their expectations are in turn driven by their beliefs.

“If you don’t believe there are mysterious, fascinating and extraordinary things occurring, beyond human awareness, you’ll potentially already have moved on”

This is often the dilemma faced by those dealing with the change, adaptation and creation, of beliefs. If we lack the belief that extraordinary things can happen, in any given moment of time, we filter out the opportunity of experiencing them. If you lack the belief your life can change overnight, or even in an instant, it won’t. However, adopting these kind of beliefs, is easier than you might think.

“Once a belief in the extraordinary is instilled – and maintained by filtering our experiences through it – we raise our awareness of the possibility of the extraordinary”

This change in filtering happens once we open and expand our minds. This expansion could be the result of a random decision. Allow me to explain. Let’s say we make a random decision to buy a white car (because we think there aren’t that many about) and yet once we’ve bought it, white cars are everywhere! What we’ve done in this instance, is raise our awareness of all the white cars on the roads, through changing how we filter in or out information, respectively.

The alternative, to this explanation for all the extra white cars, comes from those who think they’ve jumped into a parallel universe. Indeed, it can certainly feel this way when we experience such an extraordinary, sudden change. And besides, who knows, perhaps we have  jumped into a parallel universe.

“Recent understandings, within the strange rules of quantum mechanics, suggest we actually do this all the time”

To make matters even stranger, the observed behaviour of quantum particles, is even beginning to suggest the past influences the present in more ways than we think. Currently, we imagine the past influencing the present in a linear, sequential fashion. For example, if we plant a seed now, the linear nature of our thinking suggests that at some indeterminate future point in time, we’ll have a flower. Within the world of the quantum though, it’s postulated particles actually, physically, move back and forward through time, effecting how a particle behaves in the present. In other words, the flower already, existed. Weird to say the least.

All in all, when we open our minds to the unexpected and extraordinary, we begin to open up our lives in ways we previously couldn’t imagine. See the reasons for what you’re drawn to, as being more, than coincidence or chance. See the random nature of things, less as being random, and more as opportunity to expand your thinking.

Take some time to explore.

Passion and Gentle Meanderings

Time
Time

“I think of time as being a little like money. We spend time and we spend money, and I realise, if we stop thinking about either one, we can lose track of them.”

Thinking and obsessing are two different things. If we obsess about either time or money we can end up using them inefficiently. If we worry about running out of time or worry about running out of money, potentially, this causes us to stop using them wisely. Like the wealthy landlord I see visiting charity shops, we might become miserly, or we might run around like headless chickens, thinking this will help us make the most of what we have. Both are wasteful. Ponder.

Examining time more closely, or what we focus on within our time to be more specific, helps us understand how the process of focusing on one goal, can have the effect of improving others we’ve become less conscious of.

For example, if your attention were focused on fixing up a house, it’s possible, this could help other aspects of your life run smoother; those things that are better run on autopilot. Things, that if constantly attended to on a conscious level, would actually fall apart. Letting go a little, often helps, rather than hinders.

Consider the lives of people who have passion. Passion that takes up much of their time and money. Does this passion improve their lives? Of course there is a fine line; some people have passions that are so all consuming, their home lives suffer as a result. So there must be balance.

The same goes with money. I considered how it might feel to win over one hundred million on the lottery. And I realised I really wouldn’t want the responsibility. It would remove so much of the challenge of life, to such an extent, that it may end up not being worth living at all. It may well end up ruining my life, as it would, and has, for so many others.

Too much time and/or too much money are likely to create more problems than they solve. If you were going to live forever, with all the money you could ever possibly spend, what would you do? You’d certainly need a passion, but then of course, you wouldn’t consider time or money as particularly important, would you? You wouldn’t if that passion were a wholesome one.

With this in mind, it’s important to remember: Once you’ve fixed up your house, you’ll then need to find a new one. Having said this, some houses, especially the older ones, do need constant love and attention.

Do you understand?

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Time
The future and the past are illusions we extend life when we learn how to love
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We only ever truly know something once we’ve taught/given it to another

 

Self-aware

The Importance of Life

“I wanted to tell her how important life is, how I could see fear was controlling her work-alcoholism, and how fear was the root to her control-freak nature, but that in itself, would be doing the very thing she was: trying to control the uncontrollable.”

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The Importance of TIME

Instead, I’ve let it go, and now just observe her erratic behaviour from a distance. It is only time after all, or is that the wrong thing to say? Time is in fact very important. What I suppose I mean, is the process of learning when the time is right to let go, takes time you can’t change.

“Like the time it takes for a kettle to boil, you can’t speed it up, unless you use more power that is. They say ‘a watched pot never boils’ and this could be regardless of how much power we put in. Perhaps sometimes we need to let go, and observe, and sometimes we need more power.”

The amount of time she spends working in the store actually reduces her power, another thing she can’t see. We become less efficient when we’re tired, trying to control everything, and everyone around us. The main reason I don’t want her to let go of control, is it’s likely to increase my burden, one I can well do without, what with the squirrelling and so on.

Did you know, a squirrel can hide thousands of nuts and remember where every single one is stored? It’s true, I’m a little like that with memories; I remember a lot of things, in a very different way, to how alzheimer’s sufferers cling to unforgiving pasts they’re trying to make sense of. It all makes sense to you and me. The time is moving on for change.

When it comes to change, believing it’s possible to move forward and make changes, has a lot to do with your imagination. Could Jane/Carol even imagine a better future. One thing she recently said was: “I’d get bored if I had days off.” Wow, that really does smack of lacking imagination, does it not?

Time
Future Thinking

I often find myself imagining a future, where I’m not asleep, and sometimes I think this future is just my wistful imagination. Are you really out there, my beautiful future?