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Educate Me; Make My Life Beautiful

“Imagine every child making that statement”

We’re not hearing it said out loud. In fact, it’s doubtful we ever will, however, for the sake of the children, and their future, we must begin to imagine every single child asserting it.

How many of us regret the things we’ve done in those unthinking moments of the past? Perhaps we’ve been consumed with passion and things have gone too far. A baby has been conceived and an abortion the answer. Would proper sex-education have solved the issue of unwanted pregnancy, and the complication of unchecked psychological damage, of abortion?

Currently only a third of children are guaranteed any kind of sex education in the UK. Even then, are the lessons really detailed enough for children entering adolescence, to make the right choices?”

It’s a certain fact, even when children are properly educated about cause and effect, they’ll still act irresponsibly. They are after all still children. So potentially, the main issue we’re facing, is young adults failing to comprehend the weight of responsibility having children brings.

Explaining, through the use of imagination, how a gorgeous new baby carries such responsibility, and eventually becomes an adult life molded by them, would certainly help. If they remain ignorant of these things, young adults having sex, are unlikely to be considering all the ramifications of their actions. If they are aware of the risks, but carry on anyway, it’s the ability to gain control over instinctive drivings that’s lacking.

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Do sex education lessons include how to help each other achieve sexual climax without penetration? They didn’t when I was young. My advantage as a younger man (regardless of being raised and educated a Catholic) was a clean and clear understanding of what condoms were for. My opinion then and now is bollocks to the Catholic church and its antiquated views on the subject.

“Besides why aren’t parents taking on the responsibility of educating children about sex? Have we not grown sufficiently yet to overcome our guilty embarrassment? Not when we’re taught – through religious antiquated beliefs – we’re guilty sinners, that’s for sure” 

So many lives would stand better chance of becoming beautiful if parents made the correct presumptions. All parents must understood the need to presume the child has made the statement: Educate Me; Make My Life Beautiful. Properly educating girls and boys about cause and effect, the power of choice, how to create opportunity, how to control themselves and the workings of their minds, would create beautiful lives.

Adulthood can be a beautiful thing, when, in childhood, we’re gifted the tools that help us create our own destinies. Thinking skills are these tools. For example, we have so many options and choices nowadays, that once the skills of predicting future outcomes is explained to us, we’re able to eliminate so much confusion. When we ask: What is the likely outcome? We eliminate much of the unnecessary. When we ask: How am I creating this problem? We eliminate much of the unnecessary. In addition to this, taking the overdue leap forward, away from superstitious beliefs and their teachings, must now come. The confusion our children face is extraordinary.

There are so many other humans in this world that seem intent on keeping us stuck in the past. We must be aware, they do this because it serves their purposes, and no one else. They’re deluding themselves, and us, into believing that what they’re doing and teaching, helps their fellow man. The truth, is their nonsense, keeps us from advancing. All delusions are self-serving.

“It takes a fully grown, adults perspective, to help our children fully understand the power of what they choose to believe”

Imagine if you believed, at a level below your awareness, that using a condom is a sin but also knew abortion acceptable by law. Is that confusing? If girls really understood the psychological impact of abortion, they’d be thanking us all for educating them in how to help their boyfriends get their rocks off, without penetration. When we push aside superstitious, confusing and antiquated beliefs, and the teachings that come from them, we stand a greater chance of awarding our children better lives.

“We create beautiful lives when we recognise the natural talents of children and help to nurture them”

“We properly love our children when the goal is to gently teach them how to exceed our own expectations”

We love our children when we empower them. The empty void of their minds from birth needs to be better understood and respected. Confusion and conflict is the root cause to so many of their problems. When the message is clear and exact, there’s a greater chance of the paths – they go on to follow through life – also being clear and exact. Nurturing their natural talent comes when this is simply an extension of how we’re nurturing our own. Closed off, antiquated beliefs, that lack reason or usefulness in a modern would, are to be shunned.  

  

Understanding Love is Empowerment

Understanding Love

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“When we truly understand love – following its simple rules – we will live life well”

It’s interesting because we immediately think, following the rules of love, throughout our lives, is likely to be the easiest path. It is, however, there is one important proviso: We must all have a clean and clear understanding of what it is.

We watch the news and it becomes very easy for us to jump on the same bandwagon, as journalist, and start aggressively pointing the finger of blame. In the past I’ve done this myself. I’ve ranted and become angry and frustrated. It doesn’t change things when we react in this way though, in fact, it just makes matters worse. Far better to understand why – the things that are wrong in our societies are prevalent – and then educate people into understanding the dangers and repercussions of failing to love and protect our children.

“For better to educate people into understanding the hows and whys of their behaviour and then teaching them how things could be better thought out; thinking skills are needed”

Now, we could say this is a loving response to neglect and abuse, for example. Abuse happens, keeps happening, and this will remain the case, as long as people are ignorant to the truth of how and why. Raising awareness is the name of the game here. Doing this in a gentle and effective manner is where love comes into play. Never be mistaken, this doesn’t mean that love is the gentle sentimentality it’s often mistaken for, no, when we properly love, we empower. This has nothing to do with sentimentality.

We might think there’s no changing the unsavoury aspects to humanity. We might think this because the people within – these darker aspects – aren’t interested. We might be right. It may well be that some people are lost to us; that some minds are just too broken and the repression of ignorance too great. If this is the case, then we must focus on the young. It’s this next generation, through being enlightened to the mistakes of their parents (us), that will change the world for the better. We never enlighten when we blame. All we do is create resistance from the stubborn ego.

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“When we realise and accept the full repercussions of physical and emotional abuse we change”

When we see that much of this abuse is due to ignorance we change. Some parents may be surprised to learn, their responsibility to our children is far greater, than they first realised. Yes society as a whole has a responsibility to our children, yet when there exists such divide, in terms of parental awareness of this, we have a problem. Society must be there to support parents but not take on too many of their responsibilities.

Children need to experience clean and clear love from those they’ve bonded to. Due to our current belief in family, children bond to specific people, and not society as a whole until later. Children obviously need society but their need for parental love is greater. Governments must come to understand this if they’re to improve mental health and the issues of physical and emotional abuse. Whether parents like it or not, we must find a way to lift them, from ignorance.

Something clearly stated is: We love our children when we empower them. For example, even though we may fear the dentist, we love our children by taking them to see the health professionals government has provided. Government provides the service, we love and care for our children, when we educate ourselves about their importance. If we want our children to live better lives than ourselves, we must educate ourselves into what it is, that’s held us back in the past.

“It can never be the job of governments to love our children”

There are parents, who don’t actually care what quality of life our children are likely to have, once grown. There are those parents who have no care for understanding cause and effect. Some of these children are the ones who go on to propagate the darker aspects of society. They will always exist. If it should happen, that individuals are woken by some random event or understanding, it will have been love that did this.

The benefits to loving our children are often missed. Parents that don’t care sufficiently have yet to see the benefit to fully understanding love. We can know, those who’ve not been shown empowering love in their own childhood, will find it challenging to show this to their offspring. It’s a cycle that can only be broken through increased awareness. We must be aware: when we empower others we empower ourselves.

Only last night, I found myself pondering, once again, on how it is so many shy away from understanding themselves better. In some respects, this must come down to what kind of things are instilled into our minds, as interests, when young. Is inquisitiveness not something we’re all born with? Perhaps this is yet to be sufficiently encouraged and nurtured? Is it not natural for the human mind to be inquisitive? How is it we’re not encouraging an inquisitiveness into the workings of our own minds?

As example, many people simply jump into their cars, not giving a hoot about how it actually works. How does the car do what it does? On a personal level I find it bewildering that so many are simply not interested in this. In the same light, I find it bewildering that so many of us simply don’t care, about how our minds work. Is it this, or have we been scared off, by the intellectuals?

“Psychology has been labelled a science, as such, its been over-complicated by those who have something to prove”

Too many people seeking new and better understandings of a subject that’s already awash with theories. Here guys, I’ll tell you why there’s so much mental illness in the world: TOO MUCH FEAR AND IGNORANCE – NOT ENOUGH LOVE. When we confuse and over-complicate things, we’re only adding to the problem. It’s not helping. How would it be if you had nothing to prove? How would it be if you stopped needing to prove your intelligence by owning a subject that belongs to all? There need be no qualification in understanding the mind. It ought to be something all children have.

And so, love, is empowerment. We empower our children when we care enough to want them to have better lives than ourselves. We do this when we understand maturity and what it is to be grown. A mature love is when we take full responsibility for ourselves and our children. We may think, for example, that keeping a child quiet with a sugar-dummy is effective, however, the mature empowerment of love states: a child is kept happy and contented, not with sugar, but with our loving attention. If we can’t give this attention we must learn how. Simple. If this sounds like I’m pointing the finger of blame, you may want to read more. All the best, with love.

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The Only Form of Justice

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“Over time many of us come to the opinion that there is no such thing as justice. We’re reminded over and over again, not only about the injustice within our legal systems, but also the injustice within the wider scheme of things, world over.”

I’m going to make some subtle changes to this opinion though, and I can tell you, this is no easy thing to do. You might immediately think: oh yeah, here we go, he’s going to talk the usual rubbish, about forgiveness and self-love, being the only form of justice – and if I was, you’d be right to call me out on it.

For starters we can know that forgiveness is fundamentally flawed. Yep, that’s right, and I say this because forgiveness is a little like saying “I’m superior.” It’s saying: “as I’m superior, I’m sufficiently qualified to judge you, as being less of a person than I.” As we’re all equal, we can’t do that, and get away with it. Forgiveness is also another example of how we take on the responsibilities of others. I forgive you is also saying: “I’m responsible.”

For example, you could say that being raped, as a result of accepting drink, and being impressed by smooth talk and the sight of money, makes you partly responsible. What about the drugs put in the drink, that caused you to become intoxicated, in a way you didn’t expect? Does forgiving the rapist who drugged you, mean you accept the rape, as being partly your fault? If you knew you were being drugged, then yes, you would have been complicit. If not, forgiving such an act, is taking responsibility where none is due.

What about the parents who forgive the murderers of our children? Does this offer them closure and some kind of justice? When it comes to our legal systems, does seeing the murderer or the rapist punished, really give us a sense of justice? I struggle to see how any of it does. Forgiveness, punishment, or even the ability to love ourselves sufficiently, really doesn’t cut it for me.

As an extreme, further example, I also struggle to see how the death penalty can give us any kind of justice or closure, even if we’re the one who pulls the switch, or trigger. So no, when we look at things in this way, there is no such thing as justice.

“To believe suffering, is a form of justice, is to believe in guilt, and when we believe in this, we all suffer.”

To create a sense of justice the world teaches us we must have suffering. We suffer, as a result of being a victim, and so our form of justice, is to re-inflict this suffering onto the perpetrator. We must show them the error of their ways. We want revenge. Even when the victim of a murder, has no relatives or friends, society, as a whole, needs revenge. We believe we need to right this wrong because the whole of society is damaged by such a crime.

“As long as we stay angry, about being a victim, we suffer and need our assailants to suffer also.”

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Consider the adult who was sexually abused as a girl. Now consider how it is for this person who then continues to remain guilty and angry – at the unconscious level – and projects this guilt and anger onto most, if not all the men, she meets. Does she suffer all her life in this way? Does she ever truly find a good, honest and loving man? Not if she remains angry and guilty she doesn’t. What if society remains angry and guilty? Do we all suffer? Are we all finding less from life, whilst we continue to believe justice, is to inflict suffering?

And what about the issue of compensation? Will money bring our loved ones back? All the money in the world will never truly remove the indignity of being raped. It will never remove the invasive nature of rape or the memory of the powerlessness it created. Not in a million years will it.

Some believe religion has the answers to this. Some believe the teachings of the bible remain relevant in this respect. If so, let’s not forget, there are people in parts of the world – entrapped by religious beliefs and its barbarism – still stoning each other. And not for rape or murder either, but for the crime of falling in love with someone their peer group disapproved of. And so, as we’ve just seen, religion, forgiveness – and the analogy of an eye for an eye etc. – remain the barbaric nonsense they’ve always been.

So what is the answer? What is the only form of justice?

The only form of justice is information.

“When we truly understand why we’ve been harmed – why that child was murdered – will we find justice and closure.”

You might find this answer to simplistic. This will be because your mind is fighting against the worlds belief relating to suffering. The world believes: we suffer, so others must suffer, in return. All this does is perpetuate the anger and everything that comes with it. When we understand: they suffered, which is why we suffer, will we instigate change. Damaged people inflict damage in return. Our form of justice only perpetuates the problem.

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Think of all this energy we could put to better use

“When we improve ourselves, from the lessons perpetrators of crime have taught us, all the harm is undone. This is justice.”

Being informed is the only resolution. When we love our children sufficiently, so that none are ever placed in harm’s way, we find all the justice we will ever need. Is this an impossible task? Not when parents are informed it isn’t.

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Education for Individuals

Education for the Individual

Mainstream, standardised education, is for the masses. That’s fine if you’re happy being considered one of them. However, what if you’re looking for something different, that stretches your thinking, enabling you to further escape the masses?

When we think about standardised education, be it from religion to geology, we’re all expected to have the same viewpoint on these and many other subjects. When this is the case, it becomes harder for us to expand our minds, beyond the confines of this standard. We all become standardised. Above average becomes increasingly rare when we’re not encouraged to think differently.

“Geology, for example, may hold hidden understandings that reveal themselves through above average lessons”

So, staying within the area of our particular expertise, when taught en masse, that most relationships follow a particular course, it becomes hard for us to deviate from this teaching. We all have a tendency to follow the path of least resistance. This path is the established thinking society teaches us. If we want to witness societies teachings, all we need do, is watch the drama of the average soap opera. What if there were no ‘drama’ in relationships and just love?

“Our expectations will always be fulfilled.”

On a conscious level our minds may expect relationships to be magical, almost like the childhood teachings of princes and princesses, who live happily ever after. We may believe – as religion and some of the biggest box office hits of the century teach our children – that love is self-sacrifice. So, when we talk of expectations being fulfilled, we’re talking of our unconscious expectations. They may differ greatly from our conscious ones.

The fulfilment of these unconscious expectations does of course take time. At first all is well, and our conscious dreams of a loving, magical relationship, are a living reality. As we tire though, and get to know each other better, our unconscious expectations and beliefs begin to surface. These beliefs are the ones society and our upbringing have taught us. We may have thought: I’ll never be like my mother/father, and yet time passes and we become them.

“Education for individuals teaches a different model of relationships to that taught the masses.”

The ability to question if our unconscious expectations, actually match our conscious ones, means we break free from potential conflict. Take the ‘Frozen’ teaching (the film) that love is self-sacrifice. This belief will never stand the test of time. If we should try and fulfil such a demanding belief, our relationships will be a constant and unnecessary strain, and challenge.

“We can never possibly empower someone through sacrificing ourselves.”

What this actually teaches is inequality. To sacrifice ourself (our happiness or life) would be to place someone else’s life or happiness in a higher place than our own. We must never teach this to our children, if we do, in their eyes, we undervalued ourselves. This is no way to gain the respect of our children. We gain respect by teaching equality, we say:

“My happiness is just as important as yours.”  

The reality is, if we’re to be happy, none of us can sacrifice ourselves. We are all one and equal. Self-sacrifice is an illusion of love.

In time, many, if not most of the people in relationships, become focused on finding ways to stay in control of each other. We do this to ensure our relationships last. We’re raised with the expectation that this is how we must behave. Many couples are together simply because their fear of loss, is greater than their self-love, and self-respect.

“Be educated as an individual, recognise these traits within you, and change them.”

We must do this, because so often it’s the methods we use to strengthen our relationships, that actually weaken them.

In direct opposition to control, the more we truly love those around us, the more we simply want to empower them, setting them free. Games for control always spell the beginning of the end.

Do you want something different to the average?

Beautiful Partnerships Create Beautiful Families

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“It’s easy to see the relationship between the health of a parent’s partnership and the health of their families.”

When we consider the joy and love happy families create, it becomes doubly important, for us to be fully equipped before making that step, toward having a family of our own.

How many of us, on first setting out to meet and date members of the opposite sex, actually look that far into the future? How many of consider how healthy we could make our relationship in order for it to stand the tests of time? How many of consider if we could improve our understandings of relationships before starting a family; before bringing new life into the world?

My happiness is important to me. So much so, that my approach to how I find happiness has, at times, bordered on clinical. This is due to my experience and understandings of how important it is to ponder and plan out our daily lives. In terms of what I do, how I interact with people, and how I treat my mind, a constant state of awareness of these things, is important.

I suppose the main driving behind this, is my past; yes a negative past can drive a positive future, yet only through awareness and effort. If we have a limited, average awareness, we’re likely to perpetuate a negative past or slide into negative patterns of thought and behaviour. As an individual, raised by adult children with a dysfunctional relationship, I’m driven by a need to help others free their children of the distress this creates.

“Life can be full of sadness and difficulties, easily brought on by ourselves, simply through a lack of self-awareness. Raising our awareness is achieved through knowledge and greater understandings of our minds and how they work.”

If you believe your past has been happy, and your parents successful in their raising of you, you will of course be correct. Even though this may well be the case, we can only ever improve upon a job, you may consider well done, in order to increase the security, love and happiness we experience, through our future families.

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Beautiful Partnerships Create Beautiful Families

The health of our children is directly affected by the health of the relationships they experience around them. Your children, or future children, will watch you and your relationships very closely. They’re hungry for information on how to behave in the company of others. As a result, your behaviour, becomes theirs.

Single mothers, for example, often come from families where being raised by one parent was the norm, or where their parents relationship was so dysfunctional, it created high degrees of distress and sadness. It’s fairly obvious to state, most single mothers would rather not be, and yet they often fail to understand how their minds have fulfilled the unconscious, negative desire, to be single. It may sound very strange to suggest that being single – in difficulty and unhappy – has actually been created by design; odd but true.

“Through the recognition of how our minds equally and unquestioningly fulfill, that which is both useful and positive and that which is negative and destructive, we break free from the bonds of our unconscious programming.”

If we value our happiness, as much as we sensibly need to, educating ourself through gaining an adult perspective on planning and awareness, will reward us with a brighter future, and the improved likelihood, of healthy happy children.

Begin thinking now about how important you believe your future happiness to be and take a look at Partnership Workshops for 2018: inexpensive weekend workshops for both singletons and those in relationships.

The Selling a Car Childcare Analogy

Once our children are grown, who would you like them to meet, fall in love with, marry and potentially have children with? Would this be someone loving, caring and compassionate, who has the potential to be a good father, or mother? Of course it would.

With this said, it may seem obvious, (but not always) that in order to meet these expectations, you will need to instill certain conditions into the minds of our children. This is done mainly through example, however, if setting good example is hard for us (quite often, we are flawed humans after all) then following this simple analogy, will prove helpful.

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The Model T (1906)

Rules for Selling a Used Car

  • 1, Always ensure your car is clean on both the inside and out. When we talk of clean we mean sanitised.
  • 2, Ensure all defective/worn parts have been replaced and everything works as it should. It really isn’t acceptable to place a used car onto the open market with faulty components and this is regardless of the asking price. Any buttons pressed on the dashboard or doors should respond in the appropriate way. If you operated the drivers side electric window for example, and the response was slow and laboured, this could cause unnecessary frustration.
  • 3, All paperwork should be clean and well presented ideally in a folder specifically for the purpose. When we have clear indication, that a car has been well maintained and loved, we will have no hesitation in buying. Signs of neglect will put off prospective buyers who are conscious of the importance of respect. In addition to this, those who ignore neglect (low standards themselves), are certain to also be neglectful drivers.
  • 4, In terms of advertising know your market place. You’ll simply fail to attract the correct people, if all you’re prepared to do, is place scraps of paper inside a car, parked on the street corner.
  • 5, Ensure your advertising blurb is accurate. For example, stating a car has been ‘garaged all it’s life’ when it clearly hasn’t, is not acceptable. If you’ve neglected your car, tell people, it does no good lying. Once the decision has been made, and your car is ready for sale, telling the truth is always favourable; prospective buyers will know where they stand.
  • 6, Buyer beware is a common adage, however, following the above guidelines, ensure the issue of trust, is redundant. Trust is an illusion, as such, no one needs to trust, the car is ‘as advertised,’ if your integrity – as the cars custodian – is in the correct place. Once we eliminate trust, through improving our own integrity, the world will be a better place.
  • 7, A golden rule: PUT SOME GOOD FUEL IN IT. This is to include petrol and oil.

Believe it or not, you can actually make the world a better place, by selling a good, clean and well maintained, used car. א

 

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Floating on a Cloud of Loveliness

“It’s true to say, we really do create our own world. When all is well in our internal world all is well out there too.”

Cut out all the negativity, gain healthy perspective, find stability and balance, focus on ourselves; what makes us happy, and we’ve cracked it. Life just couldn’t get any more rosy, so beautiful in fact, we feel like we’re floating on a cloud of loveliness.

The main problem with this, is there’s often that gnawing, nagging feeling, that the reality for many, is far removed from our own little world of loveliness. Empathy, for the suffering of others, often gets in the way of our perfect little world. Perhaps if we were blind and deaf we’d have a better chance of cutting out all the horrors of the world. Then again, blindness and deafness would carry its own level of suffering, for the afflicted, would it not?

And with that said, we seem to think it’s okay to keep a child alive who can’t breath or swallow, or do pretty much anything for itself really. Or is that perhaps the whole point: to keep a defenceless lump of flesh, totally dependent on us, its entire life. A bit like keeping a pet, is it not? Do we not think there’s any level of suffering when we stuff tubes up the noses and down the throats of babies? Humans have kept other humans as slaves, for their whim and self-centered purposes, for thousands of years. Seems we’ve not understood that yet.

Now hold on though, let’s get back to that perfect little world, floating on a cloud of loveliness, let’s put aside our empathy and ability to wonder about all the inequality there is in the world. We can for a while, until someone throws acid in our face, that is. Then we wonder what the point is. We wonder why we strive to make things better for ourselves and others, when a damaged child thinks he can gain satisfaction for his wants, by throwing acid in someone’s face.

“So full of rage and hatred is he – as a consequence of his upbringing – that he can destroy someone’s life in such a way, in the time it takes to click finger and thumb; over.”

Worse than murder, and we don’t know how to punish them, or put it right, do we? Although, we do know, don’t we? If we really put our minds to it, we can see the subsection of society, that never learned the lessons of empathy; of responsibility, and how to change from a child to an adult. We can see it clearly. What are we to do about it? Carry on regardless and place ourselves back on the floaty cloud of loveliness?

Perhaps what we lack is strong leaders we can believe in. Leaders who know that keeping a terminally sick human alive is causing such vile, detestable suffering, that it has absolutely nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear. Leaders who see the ignorance we’re trapped within. Leaders who see the ground we yet need to cover so we can better get along. Leaders who love.

Leaders who love understand the human animal and his mind.

To reach the top of the food chain, wipe-out so much wildlife – because we need the space, the food or both – to conquer so much, in so many ways, takes an extraordinary lifeform. Good or bad, it’s what humans have done, and this may only be a process, after all, we do live in a very violent, if beautiful, universe.

Are we not just a product of this violence? Of course we are. That doesn’t mean we can’t evolve to become better, more loving and greater then the sum total of our parts though, does it? All it takes is an awareness that we refuse to simply ignore. We can keep one eye on our own little world, whilst keeping the other, on the quality of life for others. It’s awareness that enlightens.

“It’s okay to be aware of the nature of the human animal. Aware of how fear keeps us trapped. The subsection of society, that seems unable to think beyond the trap of their self-perpetuating ignorance, needs to be taken out of the shadows.”

It’s simply no good thinking we can punish them out of ignorance, only education can do this. For example, the acid throwing child in north east London this week. What happened to this child for him to become so full of rage and hatred; to have such disregard for fellow man? Was it the type of education he received that did the damage, he then passed on to another, through a bottle of acid? Was it an education – of how to remain ignorant and fearful, believing in lack; believing life is about taking, never giving back – that damaged him? What say we start to educate our children to believe they’re already full? What say we educate our children in love?

We can, through example, example, example. Show the child how to live a beautiful life and he will strive for this himself. Show the child a loving, stable, family environment, and he will strive to emulate this himself. When will we see: children really need nothing more.

A Working Class Mentality Defined

There’s a certain individual here in the UK, who believes in the rights of the working classes; his name is Jeremy Corbyn; he’s the leader of the political party called labour. There’s something about this man that makes me slightly uncomfortable. Perhaps it’s his habit of getting quieter when he gets angry. I don’t know about you, but when I’ve gotten angry in the past, my voice has grown louder, not quieter.

“If the emotion of anger is being felt at all, by any leader, we should all see this as a definite no no. Anger, on any level, is fuelled by fear. And we need to understand: The fearless are no less passionate, they’re just calm about it, as true passion is fuelled by love.”

 

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When it comes to the working class mentality, we can sum this up relatively easily: unconfident victims, who have very low expectations of life. The belief that there are better or worse people in life is of course driven by the very thing they’re failing to see: ignorance. According to Plato “what I do not know I do not think I know” or  “I know that I know nothing” was something, the well known Greek philosopher Socrates stated. With this in mind, it can be said, true wisdom is the knowledge that in real terms, all of us actually know nothing. The working classes are unaware of this; unaware of their own ignorance.

Once we become aware of our ignorance we see that this is the only true difference between humans. The unfortunate reality, is that the likes of Jeremy Corbyn, also fall into this category. Were Jeremy Corbyn to open his eyes, he would see that all he’s in fact doing, is pandering to the negative and limiting beliefs of the ignorant. He would also see, spending more on the things that take power from the individual, only goes on to weaken them further. When we believe that there are better or worse people than us, this belief, keeps us stuck in this expectation. It keeps us as victims.

Of course there are the ruling elite (something Corbyn talks of) however, to think that these people are in some way ‘better’ than us, is limiting. They’re not better than us they’re just better at exploiting our weaknesses. They’re better at taking our power. They do this through helping us nurture our beliefs, that educated people are more powerful, or actually know more than we do. They do not. Just because someone has been to university and trained to be a doctor, for example, does not mean they know more about you at all.

Remember, in real terms, we’re all ignorant, and the elite know this. And so what it really means is they have greater knowledge of themselves and the belief this gives them superiority over others. For some, this belief empowers them to carry less fear. One thing the elite are very good at, is teaching us to be afraid; when we’re afraid, we’re powerless.

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When the average Jo sits back and really thinks about how to live a good, virtuous and healthy life, he’s able to come up with the goods. Remaining ignorant is a choice he takes simply because it seems the easiest path. A path he’s directed along by the elite.

For example, when in the supermarket, an ignorant, fearful victim, doesn’t fill his trolley with healthy goods, he fills it with processed crap. The processed crap he’s been led to believe is cheaper and easier to cook. The elite, in this instance, are the advertising agents and food manufacturing companies. All organisations that feed on the fear and ignorance of the working classes.

What Corbyn is failing to understand, is that the only cure to elitism – so the working classes may live better lives – is to educate the ignorant. The key to this change is to educate future parents. In other words, our children need to be informed as to how they hand over their power to the elite; Jeremy Corbyn included.

It can simply never be in the best interest of the working classes for governments to plough billions of pounds into public services. All this does is line the pockets of those working within the public sector. Only through a program, of teaching children how their minds work, and how they limit themselves through their beliefs, we will find change. Empowerment is about equipping individuals with the tools they need to thrive.

We hand power back to the individual by teaching them the importance of personal responsibility. It’s the individuals responsibility to care for themselves not government. The individual is equipped to care for themselves when they’re shown examples of how to do this by their parents.

When humans continue to choose the easy options, they will always have their power surreptitiously removed, by those who understand that pleasure and pain are both intrinsic to life. Yes there is pain, yes we often need to do things we dislike, and yes, we all need the courage to become fully grown adults. We remain as children as long as there are those who treat us as such.

Many a dependant child is used and abused by its parents. If we remain as dependent children in adulthood (the working classes) we will be used and abused by those who are fully grown. Sound unbelievable? This is the unfortunate reality of the human condition. Grow, break free from the ignorance of your ignorance, and free yourself.

Loved, Admired and Respected

Why? Why would you want to look at something you don’t consider broken? You might ask: “What’s the point?”

We can draw a comparison by talking for a moment about the ill fated Challenger Shuttle mission of 1986. Imagine what would have happened if NASA scientists had fitted three O-ring joint seals (instead of two) to its solid rocket boosters. Imagine if these seals had also been tested to withstand unusually low temperatures. What do you imagine would have happened?

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Yes, that’s exactly right, nothing would have happened, except a safe and successful flight. The 5 astronauts and 2 payload specialists on board would have potentially lived much longer lives.

Of course it’s always easy to criticise and see our mistakes using the power of hindsight, yet this doesn’t mean that we necessarily need hindsight, or accidents for that matter, to see the flaws before the event.

Consider Air France flight 447 of 2009. After the recovery of the black box recorders, some two years later, it was understood that the cause of the crash, and subsequent death of over 200 people, was pilot error. The pilots went into a confused state and simply didn’t know why their aircraft’s autopilot had disengaged and why there flight adjustments had caused the aircraft to go into a fatal stall.

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Once again hindsight has taught us a lesson and pilots must now be  trained to deal effectively with the situation, should the same set of circumstances, that befell the pilots of flight 447, ever happen again. However we can still ask: how is it they weren’t trained to deal effectively with the confusion created, through the failure, or shutting down, of the aircraft’s autopilot to begin with? We now know it was relying too heavily, on the aircraft’s autopilot computer, that ultimately caused the disaster.

We too have an autopilot system. Without the autopilot, of our unconscious minds, life would be very challenging indeed. If every time we jumped into our cars, and it felt like the first time we ever had, we’d never go anywhere. Once we have unconscious competence our driving becomes an effortless flow, but switching off conscious control of our cars, is when we have accidents.

Our unconscious can only do so much and self preservation is not within the remit of this part of our minds. It’s a little like the computer that controls the autopilot of our aircraft: it simply does what it’s been programmed to do, and is unable to stray from this, until instructed to do so. In other words, if we leave all aspects of the driving to our unconscious, there’s a high likelihood we’re going to crash and burn.

“Conscious control over our lives means we have less accidents and smoother journeys.”

And so if follows: leaving certain aspects to our lives unguarded causes us problems. We often don’t know that something’s broken until it actually fails. The news is, many things are potentially flawed or broken to begin with. With this said, can we now fully understand those who don’t believe in accidents? Perhaps accidents are simply the fulfilment of something already broken.

Moving forward, when it becomes clear to us, what’s beneath the fundamental programming of our unconscious-autopilots, we’re able to anticipate problems.

“And so it is clear: Our unconscious minds are constantly seeking love, admiration and respect. Even if this love and respect is unconsciously gained through error.”

For example, if a young boy grows up witnessing violence from father to mother or mother to father (physical or verbal), replicating this programming (in one form or another) is how his unconscious mind will look for love, admiration and respect, in later life.

Gaining love through emulating what we’ve witnessed – directly taught in childhood through example – is the remit of our unconscious mind. The unconscious mind, of the boy in our example, is looking for this admiration and respect from those who did the programming. Even suicide bombers are looking for love, admiration and respect from their programmers.

The Best Part of Your Life (that no one can tell you about)

“Childhood, plain and simple. Or should I say: Childhood ‘ought’ to be the best part of your life.”

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Are children being robbed of their childhood? Our young are being so wrapped-up with achieving. The privileged and the underprivileged have the same dilemma.  The privileged obviously have a greater chance of achieving, albeit with the mental issues associated with placing too higher demands on a child. The underprivileged are also wrapped-up with achieving, yet simply due to their status and given opportunities in life, fail, only to sink deeper and further into the abyss of drug taking and antisocial behaviour.

Also we have the issue of parenting. We all know the pressure society places on us as parents, and we all know the difficulties we face, however, if we just let go a little, and stopped trying so hard, we could award our children with an improved, freer childhood.

The pressure, for youngsters to achieve, is so high now, that increasing numbers of our teenagers are living with mental health problems, and their general wellbeing is on the slide. Self harm, drugs (prescription or otherwise) and labels of conditions – that seem to excuse the causes – are so commonly used, that we no longer know whether we’re coming or going. Confusion presides.

My own childhood was plagued by mental illness. From the arguments and unbalanced, manic-depressive behaviour of my parents, to full blown breakdown of a sibling. When asked what I believe the cause of all this was – during a seminar many years later – I simply responded by saying: ‘There was too much fear in my childhood and not enough love.’ Too simple for many to cope with.

There is a phrase:

“Teach a child to achieve and they’ll never be contented, teach a child contentment, and they’ll achieve anything.”

To me, this is such a beautiful truism that I believe if we followed its advice, we’d go a long way to giving our children their childhood back. The key is contented and harmonious relationships, and not just with those around us, within ourselves too. We must have harmony and contentment within our minds, in order for us to reach it, for our children.