It Just isn’t Tennis – Change Your Mindset

Change Your Mindset

It’s said the best things in life are free. It’s considered that these free things are family and friends. But what if family and friends have no or little value for life?

The best things in life will never be free. Life is best when lived in freedom. For the majority in this world, at this time, freedom needs to be worked at.

Stabbings

I once met a mother who told me how her young son had stabbed his teddy bear because he couldn’t get what he wanted. Such an angry child.

A young man’s opinion, on why since 2014, incidents of stabbings have doubled in parts of the UK: “the kids don’t value their lives enough.”

Some of these young men never had teddy bears. It could be, that feeling there’s so little to live for, lacking value for life, violence isn’t seen as something to distance themselves from. If anything they’re drawn to it. Or are they just stabbing each other (their teddy bears) to get noticed? Self-loathing borne from the frustration of not knowing how to be grown. Fatherless child. 

Tennis

“And just this morning, we hear of an incident, where an umpire in a game of tennis, took it upon himself, to change the mindset of a troublesome player”

The player in question then went on to win the game, claiming this had nothing to do with the umpires, intervention. He did of course need to state this because in tennis, receiving any kind of coaching during a game, is forbidden. He received encouragement from the umpire, and as such, the rules were broken. Cheats are everywhere; behaving like a child.

“Here’s the thing. The young man, giving his opinion on stabbings, isn’t playing a game of tennis, no, he and his peers, are playing the game of life. Coaching during this game is permitted”

There are numerous examples of intervention causing change. When we successfully alter someones mindset, we help them win the game. Even though this is permissible in the game of life, the available assistance, is often ignored or dismissed.

On the radar

Many people are unaware of how to find the kind of training that can alter their mindset. To add to this, even those who have training presented to them, dismiss it for varying reasons. Once a certain mindset becomes predominant it can be challenging to change. For example, if we don’t value our lives, we’ll not actually be seeking change to begin with. Some are lost with no way out in sight. 

Change Your Mindset
Time to dump the teddy bear?

We are an organisation set on helping people win the game of life. The rules we work from dictate that we mustn’t place ourselves high in an umpires chair. What we must do though, is simply present to you, the options for change.

If you’re a seeker prepared to dump the teddy bear of childhood, with a desire to win, you can find your application form here.

Toxicity Binds

Toxicity Binds

“If we’re not very careful toxic environments can become the norm”

If we’re not very careful, binding ourselves to certain places and situations, becomes acceptable. Often, what lies at the root to our toleration of bad relationships or poor work environments, is fear. ‘Better the devil we know’ is probably one of the worst maxims ever thought up.

Of course moving on and escaping toxicity takes courage. We must firstly recognise how stagnant and damaging our situation has become before we can do anything. Once something has become an accepted norm we can become blind to its bind.

“It could well be that we have some kind of plan”

We have a plan for escape, and yet we’re not seeing, how it’s also binding us. The plan may well seem sound and well constructed, however, for some unknown reason, it’s not coming to fruition. During our struggles to bring our plans to maturity, we’re having to cope with an ever increasing toxicity, to our lives. This is a no win situation. Imagine being slowly poisoned by a boiler we know should have been serviced many years ago. We keep it running, ignoring the risk; reluctant to make the necessary arrangements. The boiler eventually kills us. We’re slowly gassed to death in our sleep.

Toxicity Binds
Lies That Kill

“We wake when we rinse the fear from our minds”

When we’re able to remove the inhibiting filters of fear, we’re able to see what arrangements need to be made, in order to escape. Not when the plan comes together. These plans may well have become part of the problem. Once again it may be necessary to wipe the blackboard clean and start over.

“We might be lying to ourselves”

Take some time to think about how we all bind ourselves into toxic situations, believing that things will work out, in the end. The biggest problem with this kind of thinking, is when it does eventually work out, it’ll be the end. Too late. Do something now and escape.

You can find your application form here.

Philosophers and Game Changers

“There have been many Philosophers over the years who’ve cited that everything is simply a game. In some respects this can be useful, and in others, not so”

One advantage to seeing the behaviour of others as gameplay is that we’re able to think strategically. That is to say, we not only seek out a means of playing the game on their terms, we also look to play this game, to win.

“All of this changes though, when the game becomes abusive. Just as with a game of football, when things become abusive, red cards are shown, and players sent off”

If we intend, on seeing the actions of others as simply a game, we must know when to draw the line. In other words, when the gameplay becomes abusive, it’s time to show your opponent the red card. It’s time to cast them from your life.

Perhaps casting someone from your life isn’t practical, they might be a work colleague for example, so when this is the case, seeking out new employment might be necessary. If this isn’t an option there’s always murder. It must be brought to mind though, there aren’t many who get away with this. Unless you’re a government representative, or a member of some other untouchable organisation (of which there are many), murder is probably best avoided.

“So when murder or new employment aren’t options, firm boundaries and as much silence as is practicable, are a potential solution”

In an earlier post entitled How To Defend The Empath I spoke of the necessity of becoming emotionally detached. Manipulative game players are only able to get under our skin, so to speak, through tapping into our emotions. Developing thicker skins, and not being drawn into emotionally abusive gameplay, is key. Learning how to do this can take time. However, just as other Philosophers will tell you, time, is in fact, all we have.

When you feel so inclined be free to take some time and explore the many posts on this site. I hope you find the inspiration to move forward in your life. If time is of great value to you, remember there is always the option of experiencing us – The Freedman College team – first hand. Until we meet. Thanks for giving the only thing you have.

Andrew Freedman א

Don’t Sweat it, The Solution is Here

“Even though it might sound scary to hear: “you are not aware of the reason why you’re unable to get what you want,” it is easily resolved”

Of course, if you were aware of the reason, you’d easily fix it wouldn’t you? That’s where the ‘easy’ bit comes into play: awareness. When we know exactly what the problem is, we’re empowered to repair it.

Let’s say you had toothache. You might take some strong painkillers to begin with but eventually, as the pain persisted, you’d seek out the services of a dentist. This does beg the question of why so many of us put up with the emotional pain and frustration of not being able to find fulfilment or peace. Do we think there’s no one or ‘no thing’ to turn to? Or is it because the issue is with our minds we feel there’s no choice. At the end of the day, it could be said, all problems originate from within the mind. We feel the pain in a tooth but it’s our brain creating the sensation.

The motivation to be free of pain, or to move forward and seek more from life, are equally as important. We move forward when we understanding what’s holding us back in the first place. The motivation to be free of physical pain is obvious. We want relief. When it comes to the motivation for more this is often driven by fear or the need to please. The reward of praise and of course money are also important. The alternative to this, is to have a ‘purer’ motivation; that of love. When this is the case things get much easier and stable. When we love ourself sufficiently toothache is unlikely in the first place. When we simply love what we do this is motivation aplenty. 

“It could be that you don’t have anything you love and feel passionate about”

Relax, because all this means is, you’ve yet to find it. In order to find that ‘thing’ our minds must be in the right place. Clearing away much of the clutter is the solution to that particular problem. The clutter is the programming and conditioning of our beliefs.

It’s been made very clear in the previous post how the nature of our beliefs create circumstances where we fail to filter out our conditioning. In other words, living in a particular way is unrecognised as conditioning and state of mind. When we adopt a particular lifestyle, not pushing our boundaries sufficiently, this is through the expectations and conditioning dictated by others. The way we live is considered the norm by the people around us. It just becomes the accepted norm and we have no clue, idea or inclination, to move beyond a certain point.

We don’t even know why we feel frustrated because we can’t ‘see’ the conditioning; we have no filter. No awareness. Bring in the belief (and actually believe it yourself) “love is work made visible” for example, and things begin to change.

“It’s the filtering system we must look at”

The challenge, of explaining how belief and/or lack of it, can just as easily disable, as enable us, is not to be underestimated. For example – and to meet this challenge – if you believed it the norm to spend most of your time around other human beings, yet felt at your most productive and happiest when alone, there’s obviously going to be conflict. If we now creatively question this, and then bring in the belief “there is no norm,” we reduce the conflict. We’ve questioned a limiting belief and introduced a more useful one. We’ve altered the filters.

Let’s look at another one. The statement: “a motorcycle needs to be noisy in order to be safe” (other road users can hear you) is not a fact but bullshit. This particular nonsense is pedalled by those who think a noisy bike is an expression, of one kind or another, but in reality, has very little to do with road safety. I for one get annoyed with people who feel it okay to infect the air with their racket. The louder the bike the more frightened everyone else should be kind of thing.

“It might be the case that a pedestrian can hear a noisy bike coming but it’s a pedestrians responsibility to also open his eyes”

A strong wind and a fast bike can diminish and push away a lot of sound from a pedestrian’s ears, as such, how loud a fast bike is – on a windy day – becomes irrelevant. And now with the advent of electric cars and bikes, more kids are going to need the importance of looking up, drummed into them.

Anyway, the belief: Bikes need to be noisy to be safe, is a convenience for cretins on loud machines. Many beliefs are simply there for the convenience of those who hold them. The example given above makes it clear how a belief, misguided, convenient or whatever, is a filter that keeps the holder stuck. I doubt we’ll get to see a Hell’s Angel – with his silly patch sewn onto his sleeve, machete or shotgun over his shoulder – riding on the back of an electric motorcycle any day soon. Who knows though, perhaps they’ll prove me wrong. Brum, brum, or is it Swisssssh . . . Love it!

Weeping With the Effort

His alarm went off.

The smart phone was set to vibrate as well. The night before, he’d placed it on top of the headboard, so the sound of the vibration went through the whole bed. “Fuck” he said.

Later, on his way in to work, he suddenly and inexplicably, felt emotional. I could weep with all the effort of this shit, he thought. To Evo life seemed to be all about effort with very little return. He once said to a colleague of his: “All those things priced at pennies, how do you ever make any money?” His colleague had simply replied: “All those pennies add up my mate.” It was a fact he’d never been able to get his head around.

It all seemed like so much effort.

His arms and legs felt like they had lead weights attached to them. Everything he did was, to his reckoning, done to the best of his abilities, and yet there was no gratitude, no appreciation, no fuck all! At least that’s how he saw it. There was another part of him that knew different. It was the part of him that found the energy to swing his legs out of bed in the morning.

One of Evo’s favourite sayings was “I should have been dead years ago, I was only supposed to make it to thirty three!” God only knew what that was doing to his mind. Knowing Evo’s luck, it was lengthening his life, rather than shortening it.

To make matters worse, another saying that’d been rattling around his head of late, that seemed in direct conflict to the first one, was this: “The best form of revenge is to outlive your abusers.” A saying he believed he’d discovered all by himself but was shocked to read, some months after penning it, that it was actually quite well known. He’d probably seen it somewhere years earlier and his mind had tricked him into thinking it an Evo original.

At times there seemed to be a lot of conflict in Evo’s mind.

A lot of it had escalated as a result of his mate, John, skulking off during a night out. Just when the party had started as well. He seem unusually upset about being knocked back by one of the two girls that had approached them. They were just mind-fuck bitches anyway; just out for the craic.

He found the coke – that John had so ungratefully turned down that night – his way of letting off steam. If it wasn’t for that stuff, he reckoned he’d go right of his nut with the effort of it all. Perhaps it was time for a change. He remembered overhearing a conversation in the staff room once where someone, he didn’t know particularly well, had said how tired and worn out he felt all the time. How it all seemed like such an effort. Just as Evo had inexplicably felt earlier, he’d said that some days he felt like crying, when he thought about the effort of it all. His friend sitting at the table said it was depression and told him to go look for another job. Told him it was time for change.

If this was also true for Evo, the question was, what would he do? He was so wrapped up with sales, advertising and marketing – something he didn’t believe he was very good at – that he didn’t seem to have room for much else.

Anyway, there was always the weekend to look forward to. A little bit of the white stuff, with a Jack and Ginger to follow, and all will be well. At least for a little while.

Doubt: A Bigger Monster Than You Might Think

“From time to time we find ourselves riddled with doubt and uncertainty. Should we shouldn’t we? Do I don’t I? Perhaps, maybe, could be. Doubt, doubt, doubt”

Getting stuck with doubt is extremely debilitating. It’s a little like quicksand in its nature: the more we struggle, the deeper we sink. Wrestling with doubt is also very tiring. When we’re trapped in the confusion, brought on by a doubt and uncertainty, we can even feel like we’re going slightly mad. We can begin to feel like we no longer know our own minds and begin to rely on others to make decisions for us.

If you can imagine a child emotionally abused for years, having all their decisions and choices questioned, criticised and invalidated time and time again, they eventually become weak and subservient to their abuser. The insanity of confusion and doubt is so strong, they become completely reliant on their abusers to make decisions for them. They literally no longer know their own mind. Self-doubt seeded over years of abuse.

There are relationships like this in adulthood. A gentle soul can have all their assertive, decision making skills, sucked out of them, through the subtle and insidious installation of doubt. “Are you sure?” Oh you bet I am.

“There are those, who make a point of going out of their way, in order to cast doubt on all our thoughts and actions. We must watch and listen closely for this kind of abuse. In time it becomes the norm, and we no longer see or hear its abusive, controlling nature”  

The game of instilling doubt is played as a form of control. If we want to damage the self-esteem of a child, for example, all we need do is question and invalidate their choices through criticism. Do this for long enough, and eventually, they’ll simply give up making any decisions for themselves at all. Then we’ll have them totally at our mercy, completely in our control. We must ask why would anyone need to do this to a child? In answer to this, it’s frightened, insecure adults, who need to do this. In particular, it’s adults who believe they own their children, or indeed their partners.

“Sometimes, those who we believe to be powerful, are only this way as a result of stealing power from others. Society is full of these kind of people”

Being assertive with our decision making does take courage. From deciding what clothes to wear before going out for dinner, to the bigger decisions in life, there will always be a degree of courage involved. We must overcome our fear of change and the chances of making mistakes. If we fear mistakes, either through having made many in the past, or having this fear instilled in us as children, we will of course be reluctant to make quick, impulsive decisions. There are times though, when it’s these kind of snap decisions, that open up our lives in ways we previously didn’t imagine.

“It is said, there are is no such thing as a mistake, only feedback. The feedback that gives us the opportunity to do things differently next time around. Without mistakes, how will we ever know?”

There are certain things in life we can be sure of. One of these things is that change can only enhance life. An unwelcome change may not feel like it at the time, yet eventually, hindsight always shows us the necessity and importance of change. We must make all manner of decisions every day. If we doubt everyone we make, we become stuck, and we stagnate.

Watch a listen closely to those around you. Are they invalidating and questioning your everyday choices? If so, this kind of toxic situation, will be creating your confusion. Is it time to move on? Decide.

Routine Danger

Routine Danger

“There’s no denying the vast majority of us are creatures of habit”

We like the security and predictability of routine. We feel safer when we have a plan for our day; a plan we can trust.

The danger of routine is its stickiness. If we could place ourselves in the mind of an obsessive compulsive for a moment, we’d understand, through extreme example, the stickiness of routine.

Thankfully, the majority of us, don’t suffer from full blown OCD, yet there are many of us who live with a mild form of it. Perhaps many more than we could safely estimate. Perhaps, we all, live with a mild form of OCD.

Take a moment to consider the routines of your day. Are most day’s for you different? If this is the case, you’re certainly one of the lucky ones, however, what about the weekly routines or the yearly ones? We all live with some degree of routine, we’re human, it’s in our nature.

“It could be said that routines are inescapable”

In fact, if we woke every day without a plan (that potentially matched that of yesterday or the same day last week or last year) of some sort, we’d be lost. There’d be no purpose or map for the day, and we know what happens to those with no map and no purpose, don’t we?

All in all, when we consider human nature: our need for security and predictability, we get a better sense of the importance of raising our awareness. Raising awareness of our nature is essential. Awareness helps us see the necessity of change and variety.

Getting stuck in the horrible stickiness of routine is often the root to mild depression. We must add a little to the mix if we’re to remain well. We do this through being sufficiently challenged. We also do it through adding variety, change and purpose.

Ultimately when we break our routines we get more from life. For a fuller life, all that’s required, is a little courage to leave the comfortable nest of routine.

The Chains That Bind Us

Courage

We must recognise, sometimes it’s the very things we strive for, that are the very things holding us down.

I read recently, once again, that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. We may find ourselves insane from time to time, however, as long as we recognise the error, eventually, we’re progressing. It’s those who fail in this recognition that potentially waste their lives, and a fortune, pursuing something that doesn’t want them.

This something could be a person or potential future. No matter how hard we try and what choices we make, it can be the case, that a certain future just isn’t a possibility. As strange as it may sound, it could well be, that it just isn’t available. The reasons for this can be myriad. Exploring this can also become a bind in itself. Far better, once we’ve recognised the insanity of our situation, to just drop it, and move on. This can take courage.

Courage

To recognise that we may have been wrong; that we may have been pursuing the wrong idea, or wrong person for that matter, does take courage. It is only courage though.

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Courage

Take heart, because once you begin to move away from the insanity of stagnation – of needless and futile repetition – you’ll be moving toward the sanity of change. One of the few certainties that’s pointless to try and avoid. Embrace change and never look back.

The Ego, Fragile Ego

Games of The Fragile Ego

The Ego, Fragile Ego

As a comfortable follow on from yesterday’s post, it’s most appropriate now, to talk more about how the ego seeks to boost and protect itself.

Defensiveness is potentially the most obvious method of protection. Being antagonistic, contradictory and generally argumentative, are common forms of defence. The ego must do this in order to protect what it holds dear. It’s only when we’re aware of this tendency, do we become aware of its limitations: the more we defend our position, opinion and beliefs, the less likely it is, we’ll advance and mature.

A fragile ego will be the most defensive. Low self-esteem is the symptom of a fragile ego. Those who live with such a mind are the most defensive of all. Once we become aware, of how our defensive nature, ultimately only adds to the fragility of our self-esteem, do we begin the process of change. Getting through to such a person is a different matter entirely though. It’s okay for the likes of you and I to understand this, but getting this message across in a subtle and successful manner to others, takes dexterity and cleverness. Paradoxically a fragile ego is the hardest to accept change.

The reason it’s the hardest to influence is because of its fragility. Let me explain further. Imagine an animal trapped in a snare. It’s still alive. Perhaps it’s only trapped by one of its hind legs. If we were to approach such an animal, we’d be in danger of getting hurt ourselves. It would be frightened and fighting for its life. In fact, because an animal in such a position is unable to escape, it will be forced to resort to the fight part of the fight or flight principle. An animal that’s trapped, is in a fragile position, to say the least.

“It follows in the same light, that a human being that’s trapped – by its narrow and limited scope of thinking – will, in order to protect itself, fight in the only way it knows how.”

The way in which this is achieved is myriad. Defensiveness has already been mentioned. Let’s talk now, about games of the ego.

Once again, the purpose of the whole exercise, be it games or defensiveness, is to protect. The ego must protect what you are. The ego protects the very fabric of what you are: your beliefs. Individuals who are neither defensive or game players have established something very important: they’ve come to understand the unnecessary and limiting nature of defensiveness and gameplay. Their ego has grown.

“Because of this, they’ve matured to the point that their ego no longer needs to defend itself; it is no longer fragile; it’s the animal set free from the snare. This has been achieved through awareness and maturity.”

So, the alternative to a free individual, is a snared game player. I’m going to leave you with one example of this kind of gameplay. The game of: I’ll like, follow or comment on your blog, simply because my ego needs to boost itself, through your interest in return.

Potentially the player of this game doesn’t have any interest whatsoever in what you have to say, and is only interested in the potential rewards, from their pretence. This is the work of a fragile ego. Never be confused here. A big ego is more likely to acknowledge any positive change they might see or hear suggested. 

And so, whilst they remain stuck within it, the player of this game learns nothing. Social media is the platform, or playground, and it’s something to watch out for. Don’t get pulled into this game because you just might become infected. It’s a nasty game and a nasty habit. Like many bad habits, they can end up, in control of you.

Through Questioning our Beliefs

Freedom Sitting on a Beach?

Many of us believe that if we just had a little more money we’d be freer. We think that if we only had enough money to set up that business, or establish some kind of higher status in the world, all would be well. The truth is, freedom, has nothing to do with these things.

Clarity of mind:

“This can be achieved through a meditative state. During this state, we must look to drop everything from our minds, that we believe matters. When we’re able to do this, we clearly understand. . . freedom occurs when we shed the layers of confusion brought about through conflicting beliefs.”

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Freedom Costs Nothing

“The common man is indoctrinated into his expectations of life.”

The very broad and general system of beliefs we’re given, come as a consequence of our environment, during childhood. For example, when young, what made our parents happy? This is easy to answer, because most times all we need do, is ask ourselves what makes us happy. Happiness, and most importantly what makes us happy, is a learned behaviour.

“By questioning our ‘learned’ behaviour we escape many of the shackles previous generations have taught us. Paradoxically, many of the means we use to seek happiness, actually enslave us.”

It goes without saying, happiness, well-being and safety, are important to us all. How we find these things varies from individual to individual. One individual might feel free, well, happy and safe when he’s in the local betting shop, placing a months wages on a horse. Another, may feel free and safe sitting in his favourite chair, with his family around him, watching a good movie after a hard days work.

“Yet another person, who has questioned the types of systems we’ve developed to make us happy, may feel all these things when sitting alone on a beach.”

True happiness is achieved when we free ourselves from the illusions created through learned behaviour. When we take the time to really think about it, happiness is a state of mind, effortlessly achieved, when we have balance. A Buddhist monk for example, may well tell you: “happiness is achieved through realising the now moment.” How easy would life be, if we could achieve happiness (a state of contentment) through simply being aware, of our breathing? In those moments of awareness, would we be enslaved by all the ‘trappings’ of life we’re taught to believe we need, in order to be happy? No, in those moment, we’d be free.

“It may seem difficult to believe and accept, the most effective route to the true happiness freedom brings, will include: Creativity, Change, Challenge and Variety. All of which, can cost us, nothing.”

It’s worth considering a different route, to what you believe may help you feel happier, before seeking investment in that business. It’s only ever the ego (the best creator of illusions there ever was) that seeks a higher status in life, and is often driven by fear. Do we fear not seeming good enough? Our fears enslave us.

In addition to all this, raised self-esteem, is something we attach to happiness. The assumption is: low self-esteem equals unhappy. It’s certainly the case, if we’ve found activities – from learning martial arts to having sex – that help with building our self-esteem, we feel happier when doing them. However when this is the case, we’re also working to the same mistaken principle: Happiness comes from outside of us. This belief is our weakness.

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Small Diamonds Are Used To Change Big Things

We raise our self-esteem from the inside out. For example, if a child is small and weaker than his classmates, the solution will often be seen as something external. With this in mind, is learning martial arts the answer? High self-esteem will only be achieved during the hand chopping, board breaking classes. He’ll still potentially grow up to have low self-esteem in many other aspects of his life. If he never questions the belief: small and weak, he’ll remain this way on the inside forever.

“Now he has his ‘black belt’ what if he were drawn to a violent lifestyle? What if he or adopted a confrontational approach to others?”

Would this be a useful way to get through life? Far better to change how he feels about himself on the inside. We do this through helping him deal with his emotions in a gentle way. We help him question his beliefs about size: small is efficient, small diamonds are used to change big things, and so on.

The paradox is this: The greater the happiness – found through our archaic beliefs – the more enslaved we become.

Happiness is found through the things that help us feel less afraid; when we can fight we’re less fearful; when we own we’re less fearful. The bigger the car, or the house or whatever – now we have the black belt – the safer we feel; all paradoxical.

We really do live in a world that’s a mirror reflection of the true one. When we step out of this mirror – through shedding the confused conditioning of our beliefs – we’re able to see the ridiculous nature of the world we’ve created. Only then, will we find the freedom, that costs nothing.

A Fabulous Time to Be Alive (The Thinking Revolution)

Thinking

“At times you may not think it, yet if we just take a moment (the time it takes to read a short blog to be exact) we will clearly see, that it really is a fabulous time to be alive, provided, we THINK so”

Thinking. We live in an age of discovery; a time of enthusiasm, with a growing hunger for knowledge, and answers to the big questions in life. In direct opposition to this, we have overly protective governments and the ‘bad news’ hungry media and it’s all too easy to become bogged down by the dependence they create, and negatives they spout, respectively. It would seem, the powers that be, are often looking to upset the important balance between the poles, of negative and positive.

Keeping our minds in the positive, enables us to remain enthusiastic and upbeat about our lives, and the lives of others. This doesn’t mean we become blinkered to all we know is wrong with the world, what it does mean, is we cease the influence of negativity.

“We have no need to get into conspiracy theories to understand how the media only survive through morbid curiosity, and indeed their uncanny ability, to actively foster it. Dwelling on the negative brings us down and keeps us afraid”

In addition to this, an overly protective government, creates a dependency, that quiet literally shortens our lives. We might ask: How is it the peoples of poorer nations – such as the Greeks – live longer lives than us? Finding the answer to this question involves THINKING.

It could be, that for you, confusion, and the ‘bad news’ media, are having a lasting effect, and the powers that be, are getting their way. This lasting effect could be blinding you to all the positive and extraordinary things that are currently happening in the world today. If this is the case, you must stop allowing yourselves, to be sucked in.

“With this said, we must acknowledge, taking direct action and control over our lives, often involves making some difficult decisions”

I recently heard it said, Personal Development is very 20th century and what people want nowadays, is augmentation. It’s easy to believe this assertion, as we humans do have that tendency, to take the easy options. Why do you think the drugs industry (legal or not) are doing so well? We just want the quick fix. Of course we do. We want the painless option, however, those who choose the quick fix of drugs, denial, or the refusal to move beyond ignorance, will fail to survive long term.

In fact, suffering, is the ultimate outcome of those who continue to seek the easy options all their lives. We all have to face the music some day, and so choosing the option of developing ourselves – mentally and physically – over continually seeking the easy fixes, is more likely to ensure the music we face in later life, is sweet, harmonious and melodic.

Remaining in charge, and powerful all our lives; minimising dependence and the indignity this can eventually bring, involves making the decision to get involved with the Thinking Revolution. The Thinking Revolution is only available to a select few though. It’s these select few, who truly understand what a magical time, we really do live in.

The alternative – of augmentation – is looking to remove the thinking part necessary for improving lives. Without thinking; without cognitive development, none of us are going to survive long term. It seems that it’s quite okay for certain sections of society to become non-thinking automatons.

“The elite need us to remain unthinking, because when we fail to think, we become powerless.”

No drug, or any kind of augmentation, will empower you to think yourself better; to think yourself into freedom, all they’ll do, is continue to diminish your power and increase your dependence on the system.

Consider what you truly know about the workings of your own mind. Do you understand how it is you do the things you do? You may believe you have no interest in these matters, and yet, it’s freeing yourself of this very belief, that will enable you to take control over your life and destiny.

Believe it or not, freeing yourself of negative beliefs, is a lot easier than you might expect. You may have been told differently. You may have been told not to dabble in matters of the mind, however, we can tell you: at this moment in time, it’s those who understand how their minds work, that have power over you, right now. The Thinking Revolution will hand this power back.

Ask yourself this question: Do you want augmentation or a better brain? Augmentation won’t get you comfortably through the entirety of your life, but a smarter brain, with improved cognition will.

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The Importance of Life

“I wanted to tell her how important life is, how I could see fear was controlling her work-alcoholism, and how fear was the root to her control-freak nature, but that in itself, would be doing the very thing she was: trying to control the uncontrollable.”

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The Importance of TIME

Instead, I’ve let it go, and now just observe her erratic behaviour from a distance. It is only time after all, or is that the wrong thing to say? Time is in fact very important. What I suppose I mean, is the process of learning when the time is right to let go, takes time you can’t change.

“Like the time it takes for a kettle to boil, you can’t speed it up, unless you use more power that is. They say ‘a watched pot never boils’ and this could be regardless of how much power we put in. Perhaps sometimes we need to let go, and observe, and sometimes we need more power.”

The amount of time she spends working in the store actually reduces her power, another thing she can’t see. We become less efficient when we’re tired, trying to control everything, and everyone around us. The main reason I don’t want her to let go of control, is it’s likely to increase my burden, one I can well do without, what with the squirrelling and so on.

Did you know, a squirrel can hide thousands of nuts and remember where every single one is stored? It’s true, I’m a little like that with memories; I remember a lot of things, in a very different way, to how alzheimer’s sufferers cling to unforgiving pasts they’re trying to make sense of. It all makes sense to you and me. The time is moving on for change.

When it comes to change, believing it’s possible to move forward and make changes, has a lot to do with your imagination. Could Jane/Carol even imagine a better future. One thing she recently said was: “I’d get bored if I had days off.” Wow, that really does smack of lacking imagination, does it not?

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Future Thinking

I often find myself imagining a future, where I’m not asleep, and sometimes I think this future is just my wistful imagination. Are you really out there, my beautiful future?

The Art of Deletion

 

“Why would you want to live a good life doing the right thing? What do you actually have to gain?”

If you talk to people about corruption, sexism, racism or any form of injustice and inequality, they’ll tell you: “oh it’s everywhere, but what can you do?” It’s as if it’s an accepted aspect of humanity. Why is this accepted? In addition to this, how is it the corrupt, sexist, racist lairs of the world, seem to have it so good, while the rest of us struggle on regardless? How is it we seem able to accept this? In particular, here in the UK, we even place these kinds of people, at the top of our hierarchical systems. Princess and princesses, kings and queens, lords and sirs, taking us up the rear, as we lie face down, biting into the pillows of denial and ignorance.

There was a time when we feared harming, using and abusing other humans. Fear and guilt were the control rod, yet now this is fading, (the antiquated belief systems of religion starting to fail) what is to replace this control mechanism? Perhaps, if the just and the good were less accepting of the rife abuse in the world today, things would be different. One thing’s for sure, some of us are getting very tired, of feeling like we’re being made fools of.

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The art of Deletion, is all about understanding how to gain the upper hand over the abusers. Here at The Freedman College we ask: what is it we need to do, to start winning the game, and the battle for freedom?

Initially, it involves questioning our thinking, and opening our minds to the alternatives. Never accepting the norms, and never accepting abuse, means we need to break free from the pack: become less of a sheep and more of a wolf.

Next, we must question established patterns. Be these patterns our ways of life, ways of thinking, or ways we find to excuse ourselves of our duty. Yep, that’s right, duty. It has to be all of our duties, to bring on the necessary changes required, to stop the current system of abuse.

“The Art of Deletion happens within the individual. You’ll see them, those who’ve mastered it. You’ll notice their differences. You’ll notice they’re healthy and free, it’s as if they glow in the dark!”

The Art of Deletion says: I’m no longer going to put up with the abusers of this world. We raise our awareness of the users and abusers and we simply delete them from our lives.

We may face some problems along the way. At this time, the system is so biased, and set to advantage the abusers, that if we try to cease all of the abuse, immediately, we could end up in prison. So cleverness, cunning and caution is advised. For example, the media of television is currently messing up your life, and your licence fee is being used for immoral purposes (for proof see today’s UK news.) So don’t just stop paying for your TV licence, that is illegal. The solution is to get rid of your television all together. Sound hard? Not if you put your mind to it, and besides, you have our support. Be assured, it will be an effective Deletion. You will simply cut out the influence of the abusers.

In answer to our initial questions, what we have to gain from living good lives, and doing the right thing by others, will never be a place within the fiction of heaven. What we have to gain, is the creation of a heaven within our own world and our own minds. It starts with you. Make a decision, about who and what you allow into your life, and that of our children’s.

Lose the fear.

Greater Purpose? Understand your mind.

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If we all put our minds to it, having the same purpose as this man, would be easy. What he did, was to engage with life, caring about what needed to change.

It’s a depressing thought really isn’t it? The thought that there really isn’t any greater purpose to all this. That all there is for us to do, is grow, consume, sleep, work, retire, have fun, procreate and finally die. Hold on though, what exactly, is so bad about that?

Some say work is the most important aspect, especially if you understand the ‘work-is-love-made-visible’ thing. Not that many of us actually enjoy our work though, let alone love it to the point it’s making this love, visible. The key of course, is to do something you love, and then find a way to make money at it. Blah, blah, blah, be cautious of trickery my friends, the real key, is to learn to love what you’re doing right now. If you can’t do that, the rest will follow.

Others will say the point is family, children, love, wives, husbands, loving homes and all that. For happiness, simply enjoying good food and a healthy lifestyle is sufficient for many. These people can go through their whole lives, engaging in these simple things, proving it to be enough.

“Here, no doubt, is the main point: engaging with life. It’s surprising how many don’t.”

Depression is said to be on the increase as a world-wide phenomena. What can we put this down to? Lack of direction? Lack of purpose? Poverty? Inequality? Confusion? Perhaps many of us have forgotten what the point actually is. If we’re truly engaged with life and all it encompasses – the pain and the pleasure – how can we be depressed? Is it not the case, when we really take all the bullshit out of this illness, it can boil down to a lack of interest and inability to see the importance of change.

And so, in contrast to being stuck and depressed, what if we adopted a habit of doing things at random – losing the fear of the consequences – would depression have room to thrive? If we’re depressed, and doing things at random, that potentially jeopardise our safety, the outcome may be discomfort, unhappiness and even death. So what? Anything is better than depression. Compared to depression, discomfort and unhappiness are often short lived, and may well be the cure.

From my own experience I can remember a time when I was so confused and depressed, that I could barely get out of bed in the mornings. The remedy to my confusion, and subsequent depression, was to run away. That’s right, and that’s exactly what I did, and the day I put a rucksack on, with all my worldly possessions inside, was the very day my depression lifted. The confusion, that had been keeping me stuck, changed to purpose.

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Confusion of depression changed to purpose

“My intention, at the time, was to walk along the coast of England, and if nothing came about, to improve my situation, I’d decided throwing myself of a cliff would end the misery.”

That last part obviously hasn’t happened, just yet, because change was the component that improved my life. In many respects my situation actually worsened, however, it was the will to live, and my unending belief and optimism that something always happens, that kept me going. And if I ever reach that (inevitable) stage again? Well, I know depression and random change are not bed buddies, so will no doubt just do a f**king runner again, so what? It’s more of a life than most.

All this shit we burden ourselves with; the chains we shackle ourselves with; it’s total insanity, and we’re all able to see this, provided we learn how to step back, from the place we’re currently in. We must remove fear to do this.

When it came to moving on, for me, it was most certainly a desperate act. The alternative is to plan. Don’t just throw a rucksack on, plan ahead. Get a job with a national company and relocate with them. Save up and have a plan to start a small business somewhere other than where you currently are. If it fails, so what? What exactly do you have to lose except the shackles of a programmed life. A life set out for you by others. Perhaps disappointment, at not reaching the goals set out by others, is the cause of your depression.

When you really understand your mind, how you think and why you do the things you do, boy! You’ll understand how you’re simply following a plan set out for you by others. You think it’s your plan? Wrong. It is not. And if depression is the problem, remove the fear, and move on. Depressed is to be part dead, a fate worse than death itself. You have nothing to lose, and believe me, once you’ve moved on, the weight lifted from your shoulders, will be liberating.

The stuff you own, and the things you worry about leaving behind, are the things that are perpetuating your depression. They don’t matter, what matters is you, and your health.

The point? Life. That’s the point.

Importance of improved parenting

Parenting or Government Dependency

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Importance of improved parenting

The topsy-turvy world we live in and the need for improved parenting

Opening our eyes to the real reason for increasingly restrictive governmental controls, is likely to raise our awareness, to the need for improved parenting skills. The more dependent we become on government, through the shirking of more and more of our responsibilities as parents, the weaker we all become.

Governmental controls – be it sugar tax, authoritarian policing or more restrictive laws – are being implemented, simply because of the increased responsibility government feels. Indeed, it may well be the case, that government is happy to see this increased responsibility, and our subsequent dependency, as this increases their power. We could say, as a result of our blindness to these matters, there is now a mentality of fascism, insidiously growing and creeping unseen into government policy.

“Right now the need for improved parenting skills is greater than it’s ever been. If we continue to shirk our responsibilities, with our understanding and skills as parents becoming lost and confused, we hand over ever more of our power to government.”

Change, can at times be slow, and this is no more evident, than in our need (or that of the elite) to determinedly hold on to our antiquated class system; a system that’s as much alive today as its ever been.

We have the privileged and we have the underprivileged, or working class and middle class; the third option, upper class, is something of a joke these days, and it would be a mistake to think this status is only measured in terms of finances.

For example if we’re raised in an environment lacking in proper emotional boundaries, between adults and children, where positive adult role models are missing and/or where feelings of safety, security and love are also lacking, then we’re most certainly one of the underprivileged, and money may have no baring on this whatsoever.

“In fact family environments where money is scarce, yet where there’s an abundance of love, always do better than those poor in both comfort and love.”

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To take the topsy turvy out of society would be to educate the underprivileged into understanding why they’re considered so (the elite and their need to restrict education for control).

To educate children about how to think and fully understand cause and effect – as apposed to what to think, and the do now, think later principle – is part of the solution. Continuing to reinforce our collective, limiting beliefs, and building on our failing methods of policing society, is no answer at all. Policing and laws will never bring about emotional maturity.

“Emotional maturity comes from effective role models in the home.”

Emotionally stunted adults raising children is just part of our current disastrous and messy recipe.  Until we teach our children, about the benefits of thinking skills and emotional maturity, our police force and laws will continue to become increasingly intrusive and authoritarian (think Big Brother).

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When it comes to the belief systems, that directly influence our expectations and experiences of life, they’re easily changed when we’re told: it’s okay to question them, and their origins, at a very early stage.

“For example, many of our belief systems relating to religion, politics, family life, what it is to be successful in this world, and how to get there, are in fact extremely restrictive.”

Now, although all of this may sound very accusatory or judgemental, it’s not until we open our eyes, and take collective responsibility, will we begin to make the necessary adjustments in current, dysfunctional thinking.