The Only Game to Play

king and queen

The first thing we must understand is how we’re currently all being played. It really doesn’t matter what’s being presented to us through the media, all we need know, is its nature: Gameplay.

If we look at the big picture, in terms of migration and the displacement of millions of people from war torn countries, this picture helps us understand how leaders are playing on the world stage.

For example, if a chemical attack were staged, what would this kind of plant serve? Would staging chemical attacks, give world leaders reason enough to get involved with a civil war, that’s raging out of control?

Is world war – all be it a proxy war in Syria – something human minds crave for? Humans enjoy fighting. Gameplay leads to an inevitable scrap. In fact, gameplay, is often the precursor, to a full blown ‘gloves off’ fight, on any playground.

“With all this said, let’s bring it all back down to earth again and talk about the individual”

From recent experience I fully understand the power of the majority view. Even if this view is at opposite ends of the scale. This scale could range from lackadaisical to warmongering, or passionate to indifferent, and it would still infect us all, when expressed by a majority. The majority view is very powerful yet not necessarily correct.

“Think about the majority view on alcohol. It was once believed, a small amount of piss was good for us, now we understand this to be bunkum”

The ability to set ourselves – above the game-view of the majority – is gained when we embrace our true individuality. In order to achieve this, it’s tempting to imagine this individuality, as superior in some way. All we’re likely to get through this attitude though, is membership to another majority group; and a very unpleasant one at that! Pointless. So no, separating ourselves from the majority, through believing in superiority, is counterproductive.

“We rise above the majority by embracing our individuality and changing the direction of our thinking” 

By being clear in our minds about what our purpose and direction is, and having this as our motivation, we raise our game; not through thinking we’re somehow superior, but through being led by cleverness. There’s no cleverness in thinking we’re superior. There is cleverness in believing our driving is one of compassion and love. With this understanding in place, the only game we need play, is one driven by the positive emotions they create.

It’s clearly stated in the rules of this game, if we want love for ourselves, the world and others, we must look to teach: – ‘those things we understand that others presently don’t.’ In other words, once we understand what the cleverness of love would do about war, we must then teach others about this.

And so:

What would love do about war? Would love find a peaceful resolution by making a smart move within the world-game? And if so, what can you, as the individual, do about this? Perhaps, all you’d need, is an understanding of the nature of the games we all play.

We can help you with that.        

The Competition for Power

The Competition for Power

The Competition for Power

How do we gain power? What is power? Is there a difference between personal power and power over others? Why do we need any kind of power?

All interesting questions. As a lead in, let’s start, on a slight tangent, by talking about what I like to call the so-answer-response. The so-answer-response can be given in reply to any question. The answer always starts with the word ‘so’ and goes like this:

Q, What are you doing?

A, So . . .  today we’re discussing power  

As I see it, this rather modern and obviously highly contagious precursor to answering a question, is in fact, all about power.

“It would seem, modern day language, has developed to the point, even answering a direct question, is seen as some kind of power struggle”

It’s like this. If I’m asked a question, and I then choose to answer it with a direct response, directly related to the question, I’m seen to be giving away my power. Linguistics has seen a way around this problem, through adding the ‘so’ precursor, to the answer. Consider the difference:

Q, What are you doing?

A, I’m discussing power.

Can you sense the difference here? Slight isn’t it?

The point being, we’re all in some kind of power struggle. Be this something that’s obvious, or something that’s not quite so, the power struggle goes on. If we were able to observe children at play, we would see the early signs, of the kind of power struggles humans go on to play, everyday of their lives. We might now ask: Why? Why do we need these power struggles?

Now, rather than answering that question directly, I’ll proceed by asking a few more. Why are people being poisoned on our streets? Why are nearly two million people – in the UK alone – experiencing the trauma of domestic abuse every year. Why, somewhere in the world right now, are there innocent women and children being bombed? What is this kind of power struggle? What is the real problem here?

“Allow me to give you a further, if gentler example, of a power struggle”

Just yesterday I took a drive out in my car. During the drive I had an altercation with a professional (van) driver, who thought I’d dangerously cut him up, when entering a roundabout. There was no collision and no brakes were applied, yet the angry driver insisted on pulling up alongside me, in order to scream and rant about my poor driving. His parting shot was a beauty: “You shouldn’t be on the fucking roads mate!” The fact, he was the professional driver, losing his temper, is perhaps besides the point.

It is only matter of opinion anyway. ‘Making good progress’ is how, as a qualified advanced driver, I would have termed my particular driving style. Safe driving, is making good progress, whilst at the same time, avoiding causing other drivers to change speed or direction. This was my driving style. The van driver had other concerns though. His real concern was this: I’d taken his power.

The section of road he saw in front of him was his and his alone, so for me, to safely and keenly ‘beat him to it,’ as it were, annoyed and frightened him. I took his power, and no human likes that. The alternative, is a calm driver – who manages to stay calm in similar circumstances – through seeing the road, as belonging to all of us. If someone safely beats us to it, then good luck to them.

“This opinion is gained through experience and of course recognition that power over others is but an illusion”

I may seem to have gone of the point slightly, however, the subtle shifts in power, through the games humans play, can, when we look at them objectively, seem a little petty. I suppose my gentle examples, given above, have been intended as a means of highlighting this.

And so, what exactly do we have to gain, through road rage or indeed through the murder, and/or abuse of others? Ultimately we gain nothing except the fleeting illusion that we’ve somehow gained the upper hand. It links closely with the game of one-up-man-ship discussed in an earlier post.  

“I believe the Greeks very cleverly understood the competitive nature of humans, and looked to channel this, through their creation of the Olympic games”

Channelling competitiveness – and the human need for power over each other – is using this often ugly trait (to some) in a positive way.

So why do we need this power over others? Well here’s the thing: analysing that need, is pointless. There is nothing to gain from understanding a trait that’s ugly when directionless, yet we do gain immensely, when we understand how the need to dominate each other, can be channelled.

Even when given channelled-direction, and to the detriment of the Greeks and their creation of this, there are those whose need for dominance holds no bounds. You see, not everyone, plays fair. Oh no.

“Potentially, and in this instance, analysing why is useful”

It’s simple, not everyone plays fair because losing adds further damage to their weakness of character. Those who can’t stand to lose, will do all in their power to ensure they don’t, and this includes, cheating. What the cheat is failing to see is, they will always, be exposed.

Exposure fulfils a fear they can’t cope with: losing. They can’t cope with giving a little of their power away. In the end the cheat always loses. Fears are self fulfilling. This is a very important understanding to gain, if you’re playing to win, simply because you can’t stand to lose.

“It is said, it’s not the winning that matters, it’s the taking part that counts”

Even this has been dismissed as something ‘only a loser would say.’ Such is the competitive nature of ‘winners.’ Far better to teach a child: when you win, do this with humility and grace, and you’ll grow to be a good man. And if you lose, respect the greater skill of the man who wins.

Respect – from a man who loses – is only gained when winning is done through giving the proper merit and consideration for fellow competitors; in whatever this may be. We must be aware, if it wasn’t for those who gracefully give some of their power to the winners, the games would simply cease. Where’s the fun in that?

Winning and losing can potentially be seen in equal measure if we recognise that competition must be kept healthy. It’s the only way we’ll  make it as a species. Learn to make good progress with safety.


How to Catch a Whale

Use a big net, surely?

“There are some other things to consider, you can’t just sling out a big net and expect your whale to simple swim in. There will need to be some bate. Best case scenario would be to place your net where you already know there are whales. The whales go where the food is. Schools of fish, no doubt. Simple.”

Large Whale – Large Genitals

Now, you might be wondering: why exactly are we hunting whales? Well, we’re hunting whales, because we’re hungry of course. You can feed a lot of people with a whale.

That said, you might be one of those people who deplores whale hunting; a green warrior or whatever. And after all, they’re such beautiful, gentle creatures, aren’t they? We nearly hunted them to extinction in the past so they’re protected now. Unless your a Chinese scientist that is. I suppose, for the time being at least, whale is off the menu. Hold on though, couldn’t we just farm them?

You know what surprises me the most about world leaders, it’s how appallingly bad they are at explaining their purpose. We might ask them: Why, exactly? How is it you’re one of the world’s leaders? Why are you doing what you’re doing? What is the point of you? And the other thing that surprises me: how is it these people aren’t taken to task more often? How exactly do they get to the position they’re in?

The main problem we have, is the type of people who’re drawn toward politics and world leadership, often have some serious and fundamental character flaws. And the rest of us know it. So the dilemma is, how do we find world leaders who’re emotionally stable, self-aware and capable? A good start, I believe, would be to find potential leaders who truly understand what love is. Who then, armed with this knowledge, are truly capable of loving the people they lead in a clean, clear and exact manner.

“Perhaps the only way to attract such people into leadership is to find them young. A little like the Buddhists do when they track down their new Dalai Lama (non-above). They find him very young.”

Also we need an incentive that’s not driven by an instinctive need to feed the ego. When this is the case things get a bit dodgy, an ego driven leader, can tend to be a little self-centered. The Buddhists have gotten round this, very cleverly, by teaching their young leaders, that there is no ego: no self, clever hey? However clever it is, it’ a bit… how can I put it…? Erm… Let’s just say… Shit.

Large car – Small genitals

You see, the trouble is, Buddhists don’t have any bombs. No ego – no bombs. It would seem world leaders do need bombs (chemical or whatever). There is a paradox here though, for example, think of men with big cars, why do they own the big car? Generally they have big cars because they have very small genitals (don’t mention lorry drivers). So the paradox is, male world leaders have their egos and their big bombs to compensate for some kind of lack. So it follows, we currently have world leaders who are incomplete. Not good. One thing a leader must be is complete. A whole person. A Whale Person ha ha!

“It reminds me of a woman I went out with once, who, over a few too many glasses of wine, told me about a big bodybuilder she went out with; when they had sex she could hardly feel it was in. “So small!” she giggled, spilling her wine.”

She stopped giggling later. We went out in my Mini the next morning; I let her drive (tut, tut, men, how pathetic). So on that note, I reckon the Dalai Lama must be very well hung. But without the small car and the wine, how does he cope?

Monkey Dick Peanut Balls

So now we have a prerequisite: would leaders must have large genitals. Or better still: all world leaders must be female – oh no, hold on, I’ve met some real-life monsters who were female, so that doesn’t work. No, whether male or female, the answer must come down to understanding love.

Swimming to the same direction

So back to the point in question: how do you catch a whale? With a School of Fish and a big Net of course. And the incentive to be a loving world leader? Well, in order to answer that question, you would need to truly understand what love is in the first place, would you not?

Ruthless Determination

The Simple Formula of Powerful Leadership

Leadership. Audio version here


If you’re a bit of a reader (likely as you’re reading this) then I’ll start by recommending a good book.


Even if you’re not necessary into the genre, it’s worth having a go at, as you’ll easily be able to see the metaphor behind the story – I’ll leave you with it, and share no more, or be at risk of spoiling it for you.

“When it comes to leadership, there’s certainly a very fine balance to be struck. Amongst many things, this includes the necessary balance between giving the people what they want and getting what it is, you want. This last sentence holds the key element to powerful leadership: what you want.”

What exactly do you want? Immediately, you may think I’m going to get all righteous and noble and say: leadership has nothing to do with what you want. This would be incorrect and I would go as far as to say: powerful, effective leadership, has everything to do with what you want.

Let’s paint a picture of the ideal. In the ideal picture what you actually want, and is therefore your motivation, is a beautiful life. Of course what your definition, or beliefs, of what ingredients are needed to form a beautiful life, will be important. If having a beautiful life for you, includes the experience of seeing  disharmony, suffering and hardship, amongst those you lead, then we have a problem. So obviously, good leadership, includes such things as compassion, empathy and so on.

Now, coming back to what you want (a beautiful life), a further important ingredient, is the understanding that a beautiful life is only ever achieved, when we see others experiencing it. For example, the best cooks are the ones who gain enormous amounts of pleasure, witnessing people eating and enjoying their beautifully prepared food – I have a great deal of respect for a good cook.

“Perhaps we could gain an important insight here in terms of identifying whether or not you have the most suited character traits for good leadership i.e does observing happy, joyous people, give you a sense of satisfaction? Are the policies you’re likely to implement going to enhance the lives of the people you lead? All important questions.”

Good leadership no doubt includes good, healthy internal drivings. Consider a leader who blindly pursues self-centered agendas that are based on playing to deep seated anger and resentment. This deep seated anger and resentment will of course reside within the leader themselves, and yet, the goal of power is to play to this within the people. In other words we have a negative as the driver.

Changing this around is to have a positive as the driver. Perhaps to talk about union, togetherness, prosperity within individuals, rather than segregation.

“To be able to promote individuality at the same time as togetherness is to empower each and everyone of the people you lead.”

This is achieved through appealing, not to deep seated anger and resentment, but to the freedom of movement love of the self, promotes.

The example of Scottish independence is a good one, as the current SNP agenda, is loosely based on the negative, historical continuity, of a hatred between the Scottish and the English. People will be reluctant and restrained from moving on when they continue to see, and are given value, in remaining stuck in the past.

“The amount of companies, for example, that still manage their staff through using authoritarian fear, instilled in childhood, never ceases to amaze me.”

Manage through the belief, that all your staff have the best interest of the company at heart and have emotional intelligence – or at the very least the potential to gain this – and you’ll be on the right track. This is done through education.

So there we are, a snippet to help us understand the what and who of powerful leadership. Your internal map holds the key. The ability to listen to good advice is also important.