We believe it’s possible for a person to change the direction of their life in a moment. We know it only takes a moment for a willing person to remove an unconscious limitation. We also know you’ll never get this kind of lasting change from a book alone.
Even so, the two books pictured above are the culmination of twenty years work. Work that now helps us understand how to question and change our beliefs. Once this is achieved, we are then free to creatively instill positive and empowering thoughts and behaviours, that bring beauty into our lives and relationships.
It is the study and exploration of the human mind that has brought this about. People who are passionate about life will always find ways to enhance their experience of it. If you believe education is the key to finding this, you may well read the books. If you believe that life is to be made beautiful you will seek more.
Our relationships and beliefs focused weekend course is based on these two books. It will change your life. If this life can be changed in a moment, imagine what a weekend, can achieve. Join us in Spring 2019. Limited spaces available. General enquiries to: email@example.com
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When rivers merge each adds something to the other. Be it nutrients, fish or just water itself, a greater power and presence is created through confluence.
The similarity with the word influence is not coincidental
There is power in numbers. For example, were it not for the six million British men, mobilised during the first world war, it’s likely the outcome would have been very different. The greater the numbers the greater the influence. This is not to say there isn’t power within the individual. After all, each and everyone of those six million men, was an individual in their own right. We can in fact get a little lost in the numbers if we’re not careful. It’s only when we hear individual stories – about the after-effects of 700,000 lives cut short – do we begin to get a sense of the loss and sacrifice.
Our strength as a species is our ability to get along and function in groups. Whether it’s an army or a community with a common aim, when we begin to think alike, our strength builds. As we have experienced to our cost though, when groups of people with conflicting beliefs are set against each other, war is the result. In 1914 this difference was in the nature of their beliefs, for it’s true to say, the German soldiers also believed they were fighting for their freedom.
It’s only when communication is clear, and there’s a commonality within our aims and beliefs, do we avoid conflict
We can take this concept down to the level of the individual. What, for example, do you believe freedom to be? It’s certainly a relative thing – one man’s terrorist is another man’s freedom fighter, and all that. Within our style of development we say that freedom is a state of mind. When there are warring factions between what we want, and what we believe, there’s sufficient conflict to enslave.
It’s the case that we must cure the root of the problem if we’re to ease this kind of conflict. Incongruent beliefs between peoples is the cause of confusion. In the same light, when our conscious want’s differ to our unconscious beliefs, the result is conflict.
There are of course consequences to winning our freedom. As with the soldiers of the first world war, when the fighting was over, many were left wondering what to do next. Many soldiers have been fighting for years, when it stops, there’s an emptiness to be filled. Similarly, those of us who’ve been stuck for years – fighting our own personal battles – are often left in the same predicament. Freedom from this, is only found, when we truly understand what peace is. And when we know what to do with it.
When the guns had finally stopped, imagine what silence the soldiers of years ago, experienced. A deafening nothingness the mind would have needed to fill. A ringing in the ears that would have gone on for some time. The guns are silent now, the confluence, approaching.
The eye of the storm is calm because the surface winds do not reach it.
In answer to the question posed in our title, when we’re able to identify what underpins so many of the decisions and choices we make in life, we’re able to cut away a lot of unnecessary growing pains. We’re also able to eliminate so much potential confusion and disappointment.
Sometimes expectations don’t match our unconscious beliefs
We might have sensible and achievable expectations, yet there can be an aspect of our mind, that’s holding us back. Of course, due to the hidden nature of the unconscious mind, we won’t know this is the case. We’ll have no awareness as to what’s at the root of our limitations. It’s only when we come up against a few brick walls – that we seem unable step around or climb over – do we become confused and suspicious. No matter how hard we try, there’s something unseen, that keeps scuppering our plans. This is limiting beliefs in action, and where workshop attendance, becomes a revelation.
Relationships are also an important part of this puzzle
We’ll need to unpick whether our relationship might be part of the problem. A relationship with dependency issues, for example, could be the very thing causing our underachievement. In this respect, studying a model of how to create a healthy relationship is one thing, yet understanding it, and then putting it into practice, is another matter entirely. As such, first hand experience – on a practical level – of how to better understand what the building blocks of relationships are, will prove invaluable. Knowing what the functionality of these blocks is, and how to better place them, can now be sown into our consciousness.
It’s well understood that prevention is better than cure
In this respect, placing ourselves in the most favourable position to begin with, is the smart way of thinking. Smart, because it’s gaining an understanding of the most fundamental influencing factors, to our happiness, success and wellbeing, that puts us ahead of the game.
Meeting and learning from the people, who’ve both won and lost at this game, is a little like playing snakes and ladders with all the snakes removed. At the very least, releasing ourselves from our negative beliefs, means we can well avoid the pitfalls created by our unknown self-limitations.
Knowing how to securely place the ladders – to our future success and happiness – comes from a smart, proactive outlook. Knowing what to look for is paramount. We must all seek the calm self-assurance, that lies at the eye of our storm, by questioning and removing what’s limiting, within the I of us.
Reaching our place of calm is achieved once we understand how we are creating the storm.
Take some time to explore, and consider how workshop attendance in Spring 2019, will award you a favourable throw of the dice. You can find your application form here.
We in the west are disturbed by the recent images of Pakistani men protesting against the decision to free a woman accused of blasphemy. These men shout, throw their fists in the air, and call for her death. They’re baying for blood. They have placards depicting a hangman’s noose around her neck. They want her hanged for standing up for her beliefs.
Looked at from afar, it’s just another example, of how beliefs often defy logic and reasoning. Even though this is the case, we can clearly see the kind of feelings created, when deeply ingrained beliefs are brought into question.
Religious beliefs are of course a very fertile breeding ground for the collective insanity we’re currently experiencing
The insanity is revealed when we step back and ask ourselves: how can it be right and proper for someone to be hanged for questioning beliefs in an attempt to protect their own? It’s the power of the majority at work. The majority are able to assert their ‘rightness’ over the minorities ‘wrongness’. And yet when we really think about it, there is no right or wrong about any beliefs, they’re just that … beliefs. They are neither correct nor incorrect. In this respect, for beliefs to remain valuable and effective, they must always be considered as fluid, malleable and transient.
The unconscious is a data storage system and nothing more
Its job is to store information and give it up when requested by our consciousness. Our beliefs are what applies influence to this output. The problem being, when these beliefs were first formed (childhood), our filtering consciousness (its critical faculty) wasn’t sufficiently developed, to question their validity and usefulness in a modern world. Back then, we accepted everything absolutely, without any questioning filters at all.
When our beliefs and values are such, that we feel it’s right and acceptable to put someone to death for questioning us, surly we’ve become insane? The situation highlighted above is no doubt being exacerbated by the hysteria of a crowd. Away from the crowd though, reason dictates the total insanity, of placing belief over life. Yet we see examples of this everywhere.
The point to bear in mind, is that when these well established beliefs are brought into question, it can be very unsettling and frightening for those who hold them dear. This is all too apparent when we see what’s happening in Pakistan. Their fear is palpable. Their hatred and anger is fuelled by this.
It seems that we are powerless in the face of this insanity
We must always remember the nature of news broadcasts. We only see a small snippet of what’s really going on in the world. We’re only shown those stories that seem ‘newsworthy,’ and these extreme examples, tend to leave a bias in our minds. Whether we see it or not, the world is still a beautiful place, and there are a few beautiful people living here too.
It is unfortunate, that there are those who refuse to separate themselves from the crowd – and its collective insanity – simply because they’re unable to see their fear and ignorance. It takes courage to question those things we hold dear, simply because as soon as we do, change is implied.
The collective madmen of the world can’t see any alternatives
What their minds are failing to show them, (through the filters of collective religious beliefs) is the beauty they could welcome into their lives, through change. There is an extraordinary freedom for us to experience through this change. When we understand, how the output from our data storage system (unconscious) is dictated by the prejudice of our outdated beliefs, we begin to set ourselves free.
There is very little love and respect stored in the minds of the fearful. Fear of change and the unknown is so all-encompassing it’s as if they’ve lost the sight in an eye.
It’s what we believe that makes us frightened. What we believe has been instilled by those who need control
Take the common beliefs of God. They’re too numerous to mention here, however, there is the common theme running through them; that we should in some way be fearful of God. That we will be judged (by our adherence to His instructions) then punished or rewarded accordingly. What religious men and women aren’t getting, is how these ‘instructions’ were created by men, in order to gain the upper-hand through the influence of fear. And so long ago!
If we take a moment to consider these instructions we will see how God could never speak to us in easily understood terms. Our minds are currently far too over-developed. That’s right! Over-developed. Most are looking for complicated solutions to simple problems. In fact, it’s all getting far too complicated.
I’m reminded that I have in the past spoken about how we can – should we ever feel the need – form more useful beliefs about God
It’s of far greater value to see God existing within information. The universe is built of atoms: very small pieces of information. If we want to find God’s instructions, all we need do, is look within these. When we do, what we see, is the intrinsic need for balance. We also begin to understand what’s holding it all together: the force of gravity. Without this force, nothing would exist.
Within each and every atom – relative to its mass – the force of gravity is of the same value throughout. We must follow this simple rule and bring it into our lives. We will only survive in the long term, if we have a sane, collective belief and understanding, in one common force. How would it be if we called this force love?
Is it love that puts someone to death through their beliefs? Or is that the fear and beliefs of man? Think of God as the force that holds us all together. We need balance, and in order to function well, we need the universal acceptance of each other.
We also need to understand that the force of love has no ambiguity. The force that holds an atom together, doesn’t waver; it is not uncertain. Quite the opposite. It is steady, it is unwavering. Follow this to make it through, and remember, the greater its mass, the greater its power.
Those who consider themselves as independent thinkers are usually very proud of this. It’s seen as a very positive character trait. Surly then, it must follow, the more independent we are in our thinking, the better?
Within everything there exists a positive and a negative
Due to their nature, independent thinkers, can at times, feel a little isolated, however, and within reason, they do have the ability to remain comfortable in their own company. Provided they’re sufficiently entertained that is.
When we find a way to offset the negative we can use the positive with renewed purpose and direction
This is to say, when we recognise what holds us back, we’re free to exploit our talents to their utmost. For example, if an independent thinker were to spend too much time in the company of others, this would potentially hamper their development. To think independently we must be exactly that – independent of the thoughts and opinions of others.
So what we must learn is the importance of freedom from the crowd
The same follows for any of us. If we spend too much time in the company of dependent people, or need constant stimulation by other means, our thoughts and behaviours will be influenced by this. To a greater or lesser degree we’re all open to suggestion; you’d be surprised to learn by just how much. In order to stop distracting ourselves – and ultimately aiding those who wish to influence our thinking without our knowledge – we must be mindful and disciplined. Keeping our minds on track is important if we’re to succeed.
Being creative is the form of entertainment we must use to distract ourselves when alone
We, at The Freedman College, recognise all of the above. We pride ourselves on the innovative and unique style to our workshops. What we teach has been brought about through listening to, and working with, hundreds of different people. People who’ve shown the creativity and tenacity to break from the crowd.
Paradoxically, developing your independence, is actually for the benefit of everyone. To experience us – and the level of freedom our training can bring – you will need to complete your application form here. Want a beautiful life? Make the decision to be positively influenced with knowledge.
Worry, in its simplest form, is projected fear. In other words, we’re thinking about a future event and applying a negative outcome. It could be work related, or just as easily, it could be something in our private life. There might be a particular task we need to undertake at work, and feel unsure of our ability, or we might be meeting someone for the first time, and we’re nervous of how we’ll come across. It is perfectly natural for us to be nervous and worried under such circumstances.
Stretching ourselves, by welcoming in change and challenge, in both personal and professional life, is very important. We can expect a certain amount of stress when stretching. The key, is to seek ways, in which we can reduce the levels of our anxiety.
The Muscle of Mind
It’s true to say, the mind is like a muscle. As with any muscle, when we place it under stress, the effect is to build its strength. In this respect, how we respond to stress and worry, is determined by the strength of our minds. Having said this, the coping strategies we’ve perfected, need to be of a positive nature. Our strength must be of a certain type.
How we deal with worry is determined by our thinking, and most importantly, by the resources we have available to us at this time. Some might think these resources include things that are easily to hand. In fact vast numbers of us turn to those things – to include drink and drugs. In the long term though, these things ultimately only add, to our problems.
Allow me to give you a simple example of how it’s possible to amplify stress and worry through lack of resources. It’s often the case that when seeking to better our circumstances, there’s a tendency, to just focus on the financial aspects. A manager I’m aware of did such a thing when applying for a job she now has. The unfortunate reality – that her area manager has now begun to realise – is she lacks sufficient resources to be properly effective in this new role.
You might now think the answer would be for her to undergo the necessary training to raise her skills level. Although this is the obvious answer, going back to the blackboard, as it where, doesn’t suit everyone. What if a person’s defence and coping strategies have become irreversible and unnavigable? When this is the case, any training given, is likely met with such incredulity, condescension and contradiction, that it becomes completely ineffective.
As you might have already guessed, this is the case, and so we now have a business that’s declining, and a manager that’s becoming increasingly stressed, as a result. Neither the staff around her, or the area manager, seem able to do anything about it. They’re left staring open-mouthed, innocently witnessing her progressive and inevitable, melt-down. Sad but true. You can read a slightly tongue in cheek account of a staff members views here.
Defence Mechanism and Coping Strategies
We all have them and it’s important to recognise how they might be affecting our performance and well-being. Our defence can be to completely ignore advice and guidance – blindly believing we can manage without it. Our coping strategy might be the pills. It might be an addiction to sugar or perhaps we’re over eating and drinking too much. As odd as it might sound, the manager mentioned above, copes through gambling. It’s a means of distraction and route to the melt-down she’s unconsciously seeking. More stress? You bet; excuse for the pun.
So the questions we must ask ourselves are these:
What are my coping stratagies?
Am I up to the job?
In what way is my mind (ego) defending me?
Do I believe I’m capable?
Personal Development is the way and the means to raising our self-awareness. There is a way to reduce our need for coping strategies and defence mechanisms. You can find your application form here.