Toughen up Girls! Learn how to defend yourselves (men and media savvy)


“We know the media pick extreme examples, and yet we can also know, that this doesn’t mean the examples they pick, are false, just blown out of proportion.”

In a way they’re making fools out of us all. Take for example the recent story of the journalist who went out for a meal with an MP only to be appalled at his later advances. As he “lunged at her” she remembered shrinking away from him feeling very frightened; finding herself running away. She didn’t know how to properly defend herself.

The question, the journalist who was interviewing her actively avoided asking, was the most obvious question of all, that must have been coming into the minds of all those watching: “why did you go out for a meal with him in the first place?”

It seems that naivety is being turned into sexual harassment. There was – on this occasion – some balance in that another journalist highlighted how an MP, she’d also gone out for a meal with, had kept placing his hand on her knee during their lunch. He didn’t remove it until she threatened to punch him. She also added that the whole experience hadn’t upset her.

There we see the clear difference between someone who is street smart and someone who is naive. Accusations of sexual harassment ruin peoples lives and must be thought out carefully. In other words, questions like: Was I naive in my assessment of the situation? What was my role in the whole affair? Am I lacking empathy? Was he/she lacking empathy and simply misreading the situation? Could I make my intentions clearer?

“Above all it’s important for us to recognise potential failings in communication skills, unconscious and conscious, and also how the media like to make the world seem like a dangerous and bad place, simply through their extreme examples.”

There is no such thing as a weaker sex, stop being victims.

When we properly develop the skills, that come with our particular gender, this helps us deal with our fear. The belief, that there’s a weaker sex, is just that: a belief.

It’s worth pondering on this slide

girl power
Learn the game, learn how to defend yourself

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.