The Healthcare Revolution / An Inexcusable Abuse of Power

This boat could be sinking but it’s not too late

“Looks like we’re sorted then. Twenty one thousand new mental healthcare workers by 2021, catering for an additional one million people per year. Marvellous.”

Certain people feel there’s been years of neglect, within this sector of the NHS, and so to some extent, government are only now just starting to play catch up. Also the fact that doctors wrote up 64.7 million prescriptions for antidepressants in 2016, double the amount a decade ago, has raised some extra concerns about healthcare.

So all’s sorted then, or is it? It strikes us, here at Partnership Workshops, as a little odd, that someone in government hasn’t yet sat up and thought: hold on a sec, if we’re handing out double the amount of antidepressants, than we were ten years ago, isn’t there something fundamentally wrong within society, we’re not seeing? Is something perhaps breaking down, or already broken, that we need to address?

Of course, anyone who does sit back and look at the figures, would quickly realise that there is something seriously wrong. It’s blatantly obvious there’s something up, and so why aren’t we addressing the real problem? Perhaps government aren’t addressing it. The current situation, of needing to employ 21,000 more healthcare workers and investing billions of pounds in the process, is actually easier and more agreeable to the general public.

If government is only fulfilling, what they feel is most agreeable to the general public, then they’re really not having to do much at all to keep the masses happy. And while they’re just doing what pleases us they are of course staying in power.

“Government are acting like irresponsible parents giving us exactly what we want: a painless solution.”

The real solution would not be popular and is, to some extent, unworkable. The real solution is to not simply give everyone what they want, but to help them understand the importance of personal responsibility. For example, there is an abuse of power, men and women exhibit every single day in this country, and it’s seen as acceptable and unchangeable. This abuse of power is seen as a fundamental human right; the right to create new life. It would seem no one is looking to protect the rights of the child, it would seem children, have no rights whatsoever.


It’s irrelevant that this new life isn’t actually asking to be born. It’s irrelevant we have children raising children and it’s irrelevant lonely women are having children in an attempt to feel less so: “when I have my daughter/son I’ll at least have a friend in the world; something I can call my own.” This is abuse of power. Children are not the friends of adults, if they are, they’re being abused. When we’re growing we need skilled parents who’re able to set effective boundaries and act as strong role models, and most importantly, we need friends of our own age.

“The happy pill generation are a little confused as to why they feel so bad. Like a rudderless boat floating aimlessly in a sea of shit.”

Adolescents trapped into a life of paying off debt with the light at the end of the tunnel forever moving beyond their reach. All of us trapped into the drudgery of doing the same thing, day in day out, never seeing and end to the enforced repetition of the daily grind. It’s seems that so many of us are stuck in this same rudderless boat. We need drugs just to get by, and this, ladies and gentlemen, is only adding unseen depths to the sea of shit we’re already floating in.

Hey ho, so glad to have cleared that up for you today. Now though we must share the really bad news: this mechanism, the NHS seems unable to recognise as destructive, can only get worse. This illusion, that we can buy into love through pills and healthcare workers, is only ever going to line the pockets of public sector workers and drug manufacturers.

This situation can only ever get worse. Where in fact do the government think this is all going to lead? Or are they not thinking? Perhaps they’re simply not looking any further forward than the next election. One thing’s for sure, the more dependent we all become on pills and surrogate parents (healthcare workers) the weaker and more confused we all become.

“Unless we wake up, the social divide will open up into a vast cavern. One half of the population, dependent pill poppers, and the other half feeding off them like parasites.”

What are we doing about the 45% of unplanned pregnancies (ignorance and more abuse of power) here in the UK? Surely this is an issue to be addressed in schools. What about our failing, to properly realise the full responsibilities of parenting before having children. Why don’t we deal with this? What about the failing of parents to properly love our children. Why are we not looking at this?


Is it not an inexcusable abuse of power to be having children without first knowing how best to raise them? A lot of mental illness is as a consequence of children entering adulthood without being properly prepared. If there’s no one showing us how will we ever know?

It’s about time government stopped excusing us of our responsibilities. It’s about time we recognised, that to not take responsibility, is an abuse of our power. It’s about time, we understood how to award our children, greater choices in life.


Good Parenting

Examining the Evidence

I read some figures recently, which suggested that 50% of how a person turns out as an adult, is genetic (nature), and the other 50% interacting with others (nurture), but the latter 50% was almost entirely due, to out of the home influences. In other words, how we turn out, has very little to do with how we’re parented. The person, we can attribute this astonishing claim to, is a Scientist named Steven Pinker. At this point I feel it’s worth telling you, during my time working as an Analyst, I’ve never found this to be the case, in fact, quite the opposite.

Many of us are aware of the principle, that the observer influences the outcome of whatever they’re observing – in my world we can most certainly attribute this to the filters of beliefs. For example, if you believe bears are beautiful, you may have a room full of teddy bears, yet if you’ve ever been attacked by one, and as such hold negative beliefs, (bears are men killers) you’ll potentially see teddy bears as a contradiction. As are many things in life, Steven Pinker, included.

Now, we must also be cautious in terms of my experiences: have the issues surrounding my own upbringing affected: A, the Analysis of my clients and: B, the type of clients I’ve attracted into my consulting room.

When we look at A, it is entirely possible that my beliefs and expectations have influenced the analysis of my clients, however, as an analyst with an awareness of this danger – trained in very specific techniques that eliminate leading the client – this possibility is sufficiently guarded against. In addition, it’s been my experience, that the responses given during analysis, have often surprised me to such an extent, I’ve nearly fallen out of my chair.

Looking at B, we’re almost certainly entering the world of woo-woo to suggest the majority of clients entering my consulting room, have issues with their parents, simply because I had a traumatic childhood. Perhaps if I’d advertised my services as being specific to parent/child issues, this would be the case; I didn’t.


Perhaps to some extent, all of this is a little irrelevant when I tell you Steven Pinker, was also of the opinion, that parents shouldn’t work hard at how they raise our kids, if they wanted children to like them.

“Curious, but I though parenting was about raising balanced, respectful and responsible adults, not about being liked by children.”

If you want to be liked by our children just give them what they want, however, as we should all know, giving children what they want, is not, by any means, what’s good for them.

One thing is for sure, if you want your children to respect you, once they’ve become adults, give them what they need for the future (love) not what they want in their present moment of wanting. If they don’t like it, then we need to better develop our negotiation skills, and how to train our children to think about cause and effect. Something lacking in some of today’s young.

Lens flare light. Cross on peak of Hoher Goell.

“One other thing that caught my attention this week was the observation: because Christ was a carpenter, it proves that we don’t necessarily need intelligence to be effective. Remarkably condescending considering how many intelligent carpenters I’ve met, besides, I always though Christ was a tradesman who believed in love.”

In this respect I’d agree with the sentiments – we don’t need to be intelligent to be successful – as love, and love of our children, has absolutely nothing to do with intelligence. In fact, intelligence, it would seem, can be a total block to properly understanding it.

All in all, an interesting week, let’s hope next week is as much fun. א


Willfulness and The disease of Frustration

Examining the Evidence: Wilfulness

As a toddler, Sarah was a very wilful little person, and her mother wouldn’t tolerate it: “I’ll not put up with this little madame trying to rule my life” her mother would say.

Over time, a battle of wills developed between mother and daughter. Sarah’s handicap would prove to be her size, for being young, meant there really wasn’t much choice as to who had their way. Frustration, would build and build inside the little girl, as her will was constantly countermanded by her mother.

Such is the nature of the unconscious mind, that we’re often unaware of our behaviour. This is especially true when we’re young. Self-awareness is certainly something that better develops as we age. Having said this, perhaps the situation, between mother and daughter, would not have got so out of hand, if mother had been just slightly more self-aware.

The buildup, resulting from her will being constantly crushed, meant Sarah unconsciously needed a solution. Meal times were proving especially difficult for mother, as Sarah had started to become an extremely fussy eater. Meal times would go on for hours as her mother tried desperately to cajole her daughter into finishing her food. During these times, Sarah would feel less frustration and her mother, more. It would seem, her unconscious, was finding a cure.

As the years went on, Sarah became less wilful and the battle between mother and daughter, had pretty much reached an impasse. There didn’t seem to be much love between them. What had developed a greater ferocity though, was her relationship with food. To cut a long story short, she hardly ate anything at all; she had developed Anorexia Nervosa. Sarah was starving herself to death.     

There’s no doubt children can be very wilful. Human beings in general have extraordinary willpower. Consider what we humans can, and do achieve, when we really put our minds to it. And there is the key: our minds. Our minds are so powerful, that when pointed in the correct direction, with the correct motivation, we’re able to achieve greatness over and over again. All throughout history there is evidence of this.

There is an important proviso here: our minds must be whole. In other words, we must have congruence between the conscious and unconscious parts of our mind. There must be no disease that our mind has found to cure us (take a moment with this). The solutions the mind finds to cure us are often the disease that kills us. Our unconscious mind is not in the position to question the validity of its solutions – it is not conscious – and therefore, will simply respond to what makes us feel more in control, and less frustrated.


“Our will must be given healthy development through being given freedom, direction, purpose and the understandings borne of love. In the case of Sarah, a few ingredients were missing, from this important chemistry.”

The trouble with control, is it’s often our will, that requires it. Without control we feel frustration. This frustration is the true disease. A deadly disease when we’re not allowed to express it, and double-deadly, when our unconscious finds a solution to rid us of it. Control over food, and her mother at the dinner table, was an effective method of removing the frustration Sarah felt; at last her will had control of something: her eating.

The ingredients we needed to find, for Sarah to be well, was a direction and purpose for her will. She needed to find something to direct her thoughts toward, that were a distraction from food and eating. Her will needed a different purpose; she needed a purpose other than the one that was killing her.

Of course prevention is always better than cure, and the easy fix, would have been for mother to relinquish control. Emotional maturity helps us understand the importance of children winning the battle; it takes an adult to succeed at playing out this little game successfully.

The other part of this fix comes when a child is given direction and purpose, through witnessing parents, who also have this. Parents must understand how to successfully manage their will and that of our children’s. There’s no battle (of wills) when we all have our strength and determination pointed in the same direction.

“After all, the proof of our powerful will is in the pudding, when we see that when misdirected, it can take our lives, right from under our noses.”

Point your will in the correct direction, and find a way to understand how to create rounded, beautiful lives, full of love, direction and purpose. Our children are depending on it.

Create Beautiful Partnerships.

What if. . .

what if
What if there were no confusion?

What if you believed with absolute certainty that what you read on this blog is the truth and nothing but the truth?

What if there were absolutely no ambiguity, fuzziness, vagueness, uncertainty or grey areas whatsoever, about what’s being said here, and all that you read is spoken by THE authorities on the subject matter at hand?

What if all the work time and energy put into this blog were solely based on one thing? What if that one thing were the pleasure the writers receive from empowering and freeing the reader? Could you believe such a thing?

“Ambiguity, fuzziness, uncertainty and grey areas have the effect of leaving us confused. Man, in a confused state, is weak.”

When it comes to belief and certainty, something very powerful occurs, when the two are brought together. Add positivity and usefulness to these beliefs and we have a formula for empowerment.

Using the example of religion, certainty is one of the reasons why religions, of all descriptions, have gained such a powerful foothold in the past. Religions are taught in such a way that no uncertainty or ambiguity is allowed to remain: This is the word of the Lord etc. Whether what religion has to say is true or not, is, to a certain extent, irrelevant. It’s the belief in its authority and authenticity that matters to the believer.

Christianity is a powerful example. What this religion is supposedly based on, is the teachings of a man who claimed to be the son of God. And believe you me, if you grew up with all the people around you convinced you were in fact the son of God, (repeatedly saying so) you’d certainly have a high degree of neurosis to deal with.

Considering how difficult finding a good Therapist would likely prove back then, you’d probably just get on with the job, of fulfilling the beliefs of others. As it should happen, this man, who believe he was the son of God, did have some very powerful things to say. The fact that Christians pay little heed to these teachings, is neither here, nor there, in the 21st century.

“So when positive and useful beliefs, certainty, authenticity and authority come together, we have a powerful formula.”

Religion went wrong when men, who lusted for power, got their grubby little mitts on it. Men have always needed power over other men and religion has proved to be one of his favourite vehicles for achieving this aim. Of course, the conscious rationalisations for why men and women get ‘called’ into religion, is always cited as the desire to help fellow man etc. Sure, there have been some selfless examples of this, however, they’ve been easily overshadowed by the simple need for men to overpower others; children included. Power is an illusion admittedly, but in the eyes of the believer, it’s power all the same.

Now, let’s get to understand the power of confusion a little more. When we take an interest in a subject, there’s often a compelling desire, to learn as much as we possibly can about it. We read books and manuscripts, we go to seminars, lectures and talks, we get so lost in the subject, that we end up having information coming out of our ears. With there being so much of this information, written or spoken, by so many individuals, all claiming to be the authority, the common result is confusion. We don’t know who best to listen to or read. We’re unsure of who or what is the absolute authority on our subject. This sense of confusion and overload weakens our overall understanding of it. In particular the workings of the human mind and The Psychology of Beliefs.

And so…

“The effect of cutting out all the surrounding white noise of confusion, and choosing just one authoritative, definitive guide on your subject, is to take out the confusion.”    

So back to our opening what if questions. What if you absolutely believed in the authority, authenticity, honesty and integrity of the following words…?

“The power to heal yourself, exists within you, and ultimately, it’s only you that can do the fixing.”

Every illness or problem you experience serves some kind of purpose. Once you become aware of the purpose, as driven by the part of your mind (unconscious) that’s been misinformed through limiting beliefs, uncertainty and confusion – then clear up this confusion and remove the limiting beliefs – you will solve the problem or heal the illness effortlessly. In addition, once you believe and fully understand this, you will have no further need to hand over your power to another person ever again.


If we have nothing to gain, but the pleasure of seeing you heal through the empowerment of love, why would we say this if it wasn’t true? Imagine we have no ego. Imagine we have nothing to gain but selfish pleasure. Now imagine, what we’ve just said, is true.   

Rid yourself of those whose motivation you cannot be certain of.

In Response

In response to:

“This isn’t about us being selfish, keeping him alive because we can’t bear to let him go. It’s because if we did not fight for this chance, we will have to live with the ‘what if’ for ever”…

The above quote from Charlie Gard’s parents really got me wondering. After all, it’s very important we never discard anything said, and especially if it’s handed to us on a plate. The important point is whether or not these words have been suggested to them, or come via solicitors, doctors (in America) or whoever. If they’re original thoughts from Charlie’s parents then we cannot discount something said, whether it’s a negation or not, as being the motivation. In other words, when we have the courage to face the truth, we will see our motivations are always selfishly motivated. There is no wrong or right about this; it just is. It’s part of the human condition, and one of the reason we’re the ‘warriors,’ that Charlie’s parents described him as.

Without selfishness we’d never have made it this far. I think we should all take a step back, and understand the pain parents of terminally ill children, go through. We’re then able to objectively see the simple truth: none of want to see a child die and will selfishly keep them alive at all costs. Once again there is no wrong or right.

“What we do seem to struggle with, is seeing clearly, what the best interest of the child are. The child cannot speak for itself, it can only look beautiful and needy. This is translated by the parents into a powerful emotional bond, that even the reality of terminal illness, will struggle to break.”

We, as a society, have, over time, become increasingly dependent on government, and the people that work for it. Any form of dependence weakens us to the point of being unable to make important decisions for ourselves. When young, and driven by our emotions, (heart over head) we’re unlikely to make decisions that are either rational or based on the wellbeing of someone else, especially a needy and beautiful child. Although needy and beautiful Charlie Gard was a very poorly child, and for all we know, his suffering could have been off any scale we could possibly judge. The ‘what if’ needed to be: what if this child is suffering intolerably? If there’s any question of this, we mustn’t prolong life. None of us ever ‘save’ lives we only ever prolong them.

So when we choose to leave important decision to government, because we’re so weakened by dependence, it proves hard to suddenly, and selfishly decide, we want to change the rules to prolong a child’s life. If we want others to look after us, that’s exactly what they’ll do; the selfish motivation in this instant, is power. The dependent are powerless at the hands of government and those who work for them.

We take back our power from government when we take out the confusion. Protecting the rights of a child can never necessarily mean keeping them alive at all costs. It’s probably an overused cliché, however, we never allow an animal to suffer unnecessarily, so why would we a child? Because we think human life is more important than that of an animal? Or is it because we love them enough to let them go?

Reading that Charlie’s parents will now “let our beautiful little boy be with the angels” only goes to prove how far we’ve yet to travel, when it comes to loving our children. Absurd Magical Beliefs (AMB’s) have no place in child-rearing if we have any chance of making it further. It’s this kind of thinking that  keeps us dependent on others (in this case doctors) who’ve been awarded power over us, and will continue to make decisions, on our behalf. 

“Finally, it’s been suggested, the American doctor who offered to help, had a vested interest in the company that manufactured the drugs, that would have supposedly prolong Charlie’s life.”

Once again we can see none of us are free from selfish motivations. The trick, is to change our understandings of the word selfish. When we have little consideration for the needs of other, we’re being self-centered, which is the reality of many people in the case of Charlie Gard. When we’re selfish we can very easily selfishly put the needs of others before our own, because this is a pleasurable thing to consider. Believe it or not, we can feel pleasure, when one of our own, is released from suffering.  


In Response: God

In response to:

God was created by the human mind thousands of years ago by the superstitious who lacked evidence or answers from science. Man needed answers and effective control of barbarism at a time when they seemed lost, with no other solutions forthcoming, and so god was created. In the modern age, man still needs magical beliefs, to sooth his fears, and insistent ignorance. Also, men have always needed control over other men, religion with its guilt and fear, having proved to be one of the most powerful methods employed, so far.

“It will prove wise to hang on to your indifference my friend rather than retain a backward stance that keeps us stuck and afraid.”

Religious leaders are in such a place now, with all their wealth, status and power – over the afraid – with their ‘beliefs’ so deeply rooted in our societies, its hard to see a time when its poison will be eradicated. The human mind finds it so hard to see the truth because it hurts. It hurts to accept our fallibility; its hard to accept we’ve been hoodwinked for thousands of years, and so it’s seen as far better to go on with, than let it go.

If there is a need to believe in a God, far better, to see God as the universe as a whole. One mind that we’re all inexplicably linked to, with no wrong or right, all is just a process and game. Perhaps if religion had grown with the years it would still be relevant today.

The main cause for so much of the suffering in our world today is the lack of love and support, effective education (lessons in: cause and effect, empathy, relationships, love itself, how to gain emotional maturity etc,) for our young, and powerful role models children actually want to follow.

The answers, need not be complicated, needing thousands of words to explain. When we cease intellectualising (the human need for power over others) we make important information available to those who really need it: our children.


Guilt and the Control of Suicide


“So we read again that yet another rock star has taken his own life. We read that without his suffering he wouldn’t have been able to write such beautiful music. We read about childhood abuse and the subsequent issues with drugs and alcohol.”

We also need to read about the cowardice of suicide. Suicide says to the world: “fuck you, look what you’ve done”- nothing to do with the The Art of Fuckology. Suicide is also the ultimate means to the illusion of control. The suicidal individual is unable to deal with their suffering and pain. Their seeming lack of control over others and their own lives, becomes intolerable, so the easy rout is taken.

“They’ve failed to cut out the abusers from their minds and lives and ultimately become abusers themselves.”

Of course, the decision to take ones own life is never likely to be easy, and some might say there’s courage in committing the act. It could also be said, many decisions in life can be hard, and committing yourself to living life is surely an act of courage far greater than that of quitting altogether. Is it not favourable to leave a legacy of courage over cowardice? Do the suicidal simply not care about guilt and legacies of cowardice?

“Yes, life can be tough, and if we’re insufficiently equipped to endure hardship and pain, our options, when life seems unbearable, are reduced.”

To add to this, if the coping mechanism we’ve discovered turns out to be drugs and alcohol, we’re only adding to our struggle. The mentally ill, or simply depressed and suicidal, fail to realise their self-destructive tendencies are only exacerbated through believing drugs help them cope.

When we’re suicidal we’re looking to control that which is uncontrollable: unconscious drivings and other people. Why do we need to teach guilt and tell the world how rotten it is, when we could open our minds, stop and relinquish this need instead. All our options seem gone and suicide is the only answer; life has become far too black and white. In these moments we must understand the pointlessness of suicide and the whole point of life.

Those who face extreme challenges in life are here to teach the rest of the world courage and strength. If you’re suicidal, consider what the act of suicide teaches, compared to that of displaying the courage necessary to live and endure suffering. We are all of us children, and so what lessons would it be better to teach a child in pain: that it’s okay to seek revenge and control, leaving a legacy of cowardice and guilt, or would it be better to find the courage to seek the alternatives of understanding how to make it through?

“Truly beautiful music, is better written by those in love, than by the suicidal, who believe in suffering, control and martyrdom. Suicide abuses us all, how dare they manipulate our feelings. How dare they devalue our lives.”

The Cycle of Your Mind

“Understanding and acknowledging the processes of your mind frees you. It frees you, because you cease looking to change a process, that to some degree, is unchangeable when we’ve inadequate resources to do so.”

In other words, wanting to feel different when down is pointless. All we need do, is allow the mind to cycle through its natural processes, and unwanted feelings will change with time. Put yet another way, endure and experience the whole range of your emotions – the mind must cycle through – and all will come good in time. Endure.

Changing or creating extremes of emotions with drugs – prescription or rec-reational – is only putting off the minds need to experience emotions that have the purpose of healing. The ultimate outcome of using drugs, to create a more favourable mood and cycle, is only a means of deferment. We only ever defer emotions the mind needs to experience for healing to take place.

“The mind is constantly seeking wholeness. We’re unwholesome as long as we look to defer our emotions. Simple. So stop with the drugs will y’all.”

The cycles of emotions we all experience differ from individual to individual. Some of us wake each day with only slight variations in how we feel. Although slight, this is still cycling, just less obvious than the individual, who wakes each morning, not knowing whether they’re coming or going.

Cycling through emotions is created through the tiring effect of our beliefs. Just as with a muscle, it’s impossible for the mind to hold on indefinitely, to one believe, it tires, and moves on to another, and another, and so on. Imagine waking up everyday thinking that life is meaningful, full of love and happiness; one day it may be, but the next, life can be just as easily seen as a struggle full of sadness, pain and fear. Here’s the trick though: when we rid ourselves of the negative, we’re enabling the mind to cycle from positive to positive. Our beliefs will not be the same from day to day, yet we will be cycling from one set of positive, uplifting beliefs, to another.

braincycleSome of us have belief cycles that take months or even years to complete. These individuals may feel fine for six months and then inexplicably fall into the abyss of despair. During this time of despair, the mind is cycling through sets of belief systems, it must experience, in order to find wholeness. When we look to defer these emotions we do ourselves a great disservice. To endure all of our emotions is to be accepting and loving of ourselves. No one said love would be easy.

Time is something we need to be aware of. Time is not always on our side, and so imagine being able to reach in, and find the beliefs it could take months or even years for the mind to reveal with time alone. These are the skills and resources you must seek to help your clients find wholeness within the time available. More time whole, is more time, fully living.

GOLD Counselling is the technique by which we reach within, find our negative beliefs, question and remove them psychotherapeutically. We free ourselves of these beliefs, firstly by acknowledging their existence, purpose and birthplace, and secondly, by understanding their irrelevance in the present moment.     

The Art of Deletion


“Why would you want to live a good life doing the right thing? What do you actually have to gain?”

If you talk to people about corruption, sexism, racism or any form of injustice and inequality, they’ll tell you: “oh it’s everywhere, but what can you do?” It’s as if it’s an accepted aspect of humanity. Why is this accepted? In addition to this, how is it the corrupt, sexist, racist lairs of the world, seem to have it so good, while the rest of us struggle on regardless? How is it we seem able to accept this? In particular, here in the UK, we even place these kinds of people, at the top of our hierarchical systems. Princess and princesses, kings and queens, lords and sirs, taking us up the rear, as we lie face down, biting into the pillows of denial and ignorance.

There was a time when we feared harming, using and abusing other humans. Fear and guilt were the control rod, yet now this is fading, (the antiquated belief systems of religion starting to fail) what is to replace this control mechanism? Perhaps, if the just and the good were less accepting of the rife abuse in the world today, things would be different. One thing’s for sure, some of us are getting very tired, of feeling like we’re being made fools of.


The art of Deletion, is all about understanding how to gain the upper hand over the abusers. Here at The Freedman College we ask: what is it we need to do, to start winning the game, and the battle for freedom?

Initially, it involves questioning our thinking, and opening our minds to the alternatives. Never accepting the norms, and never accepting abuse, means we need to break free from the pack: become less of a sheep and more of a wolf.

Next, we must question established patterns. Be these patterns our ways of life, ways of thinking, or ways we find to excuse ourselves of our duty. Yep, that’s right, duty. It has to be all of our duties, to bring on the necessary changes required, to stop the current system of abuse.

“The Art of Deletion happens within the individual. You’ll see them, those who’ve mastered it. You’ll notice their differences. You’ll notice they’re healthy and free, it’s as if they glow in the dark!”

The Art of Deletion says: I’m no longer going to put up with the abusers of this world. We raise our awareness of the users and abusers and we simply delete them from our lives.

We may face some problems along the way. At this time, the system is so biased, and set to advantage the abusers, that if we try to cease all of the abuse, immediately, we could end up in prison. So cleverness, cunning and caution is advised. For example, the media of television is currently messing up your life, and your licence fee is being used for immoral purposes (for proof see today’s UK news.) So don’t just stop paying for your TV licence, that is illegal. The solution is to get rid of your television all together. Sound hard? Not if you put your mind to it, and besides, you have our support. Be assured, it will be an effective Deletion. You will simply cut out the influence of the abusers.

In answer to our initial questions, what we have to gain from living good lives, and doing the right thing by others, will never be a place within the fiction of heaven. What we have to gain, is the creation of a heaven within our own world and our own minds. It starts with you. Make a decision, about who and what you allow into your life, and that of our children’s.

Lose the fear.

The Privileged Running our Lives

“If you think of yourself as a bit of an underdog, unlucky or underprivileged person, then that’s exactly what you’ll be.”

In fact, your mind will go out of its way, to constantly prove this to you, and to make matter worse, it will expend large amounts of energy in the process. Energy that could be put to far better use.


The ways in which your mind will seek to prove your unlucky and underprivileged stance in life are numerous. One of the ways this is done, is through engaging with the forces that would prefer you remained the unlucky, underdog. And believe me, those forces are out there.

Take money. Unless you’re a very canny and thoughtful individual, the idea of living in the black, (living in a positive financial situation without debt) can prove very challenging. Credit is everywhere, and it’s very easy to get. Buying a car worth thousands of pounds, for example, has never been easier.

When we’re young we’re very attracted to the kind of lives the media project as normal, and all just so long as we have good credit (if there can ever be such a thing.) The latest gadgets, clothes etc. cost big money, and if we don’t have them, we’re taught to feel incomplete. If, at the very least, you don’t look wealthy, society looks to prove that you’re an unlucky loser.

One of the biggest forms of conditioning has to be television. Mainstream telly, in particular the BBC, seems to set out the rules under which we should be living our lives.

“The BBC is run by the elite ruling classes, and is set up in such a way, that they often employ individuals from upper class, privileged backgrounds, with expensive educations. The expression ‘jobs for the boys’ certainly fits this organisation.”

The news today has revealed further interesting facts about the British Broadcasting Corporation’s activities. We can now clearly see the inherent sexism and elitism that goes on within this organisation. A former BBC Chairman (Lord Grade) has proved himself to be a low-grade human by describing the – necessary transparency – of a publicly funded organisation as “distasteful and disturbing.” Many, within the BBC, have really got a little ahead of themselves, have they not?


British television is all about telling us what we haven’t got, rather than helping us understand, how different the realities of life can be, when we’re without wanting. Perhaps that sounds a little heavy, yet when wake up and open our eyes, it’s possible to see the propaganda of the machine that’s running us.

When we’re constantly facing a barrage of information from the media, that unconsciously tells us we’re lacking in some way, inferiority is the result. We’re then back to being the unlucky, underprivileged and because this is so subtle and unconscious, we often don’t quite understanding why.

“A little secret I can let you into at this time is, the easiest way of breaking free, from a current mindset of inferiority, is to simply turn off the television.”


This is only a small sample of how our beliefs self-fulfil. We are what we believe we are, and the progression, toward the more positive, begins to happen once we understand how we find fulfilment, of the negative. After an evening of watching television, you may not feel particularly good about yourself, and yet not understand why. Raise your awareness, and be cautious of the machine that’s running you; take back control.


Floating on a Cloud of Loveliness

“It’s true to say, we really do create our own world. When all is well in our internal world all is well out there too.”

Cut out all the negativity, gain healthy perspective, find stability and balance, focus on ourselves; what makes us happy, and we’ve cracked it. Life just couldn’t get any more rosy, so beautiful in fact, we feel like we’re floating on a cloud of loveliness.

The main problem with this, is there’s often that gnawing, nagging feeling, that the reality for many, is far removed from our own little world of loveliness. Empathy, for the suffering of others, often gets in the way of our perfect little world. Perhaps if we were blind and deaf we’d have a better chance of cutting out all the horrors of the world. Then again, blindness and deafness would carry its own level of suffering, for the afflicted, would it not?

And with that said, we seem to think it’s okay to keep a child alive who can’t breath or swallow, or do pretty much anything for itself really. Or is that perhaps the whole point: to keep a defenceless lump of flesh, totally dependent on us, its entire life. A bit like keeping a pet, is it not? Do we not think there’s any level of suffering when we stuff tubes up the noses and down the throats of babies? Humans have kept other humans as slaves, for their whim and self-centered purposes, for thousands of years. Seems we’ve not understood that yet.

Now hold on though, let’s get back to that perfect little world, floating on a cloud of loveliness, let’s put aside our empathy and ability to wonder about all the inequality there is in the world. We can for a while, until someone throws acid in our face, that is. Then we wonder what the point is. We wonder why we strive to make things better for ourselves and others, when a damaged child thinks he can gain satisfaction for his wants, by throwing acid in someone’s face.

“So full of rage and hatred is he – as a consequence of his upbringing – that he can destroy someone’s life in such a way, in the time it takes to click finger and thumb; over.”

Worse than murder, and we don’t know how to punish them, or put it right, do we? Although, we do know, don’t we? If we really put our minds to it, we can see the subsection of society, that never learned the lessons of empathy; of responsibility, and how to change from a child to an adult. We can see it clearly. What are we to do about it? Carry on regardless and place ourselves back on the floaty cloud of loveliness?

Perhaps what we lack is strong leaders we can believe in. Leaders who know that keeping a terminally sick human alive is causing such vile, detestable suffering, that it has absolutely nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear. Leaders who see the ignorance we’re trapped within. Leaders who see the ground we yet need to cover so we can better get along. Leaders who love.

Leaders who love understand the human animal and his mind.

To reach the top of the food chain, wipe-out so much wildlife – because we need the space, the food or both – to conquer so much, in so many ways, takes an extraordinary lifeform. Good or bad, it’s what humans have done, and this may only be a process, after all, we do live in a very violent, if beautiful, universe.

Are we not just a product of this violence? Of course we are. That doesn’t mean we can’t evolve to become better, more loving and greater then the sum total of our parts though, does it? All it takes is an awareness that we refuse to simply ignore. We can keep one eye on our own little world, whilst keeping the other, on the quality of life for others. It’s awareness that enlightens.

“It’s okay to be aware of the nature of the human animal. Aware of how fear keeps us trapped. The subsection of society, that seems unable to think beyond the trap of their self-perpetuating ignorance, needs to be taken out of the shadows.”

It’s simply no good thinking we can punish them out of ignorance, only education can do this. For example, the acid throwing child in north east London this week. What happened to this child for him to become so full of rage and hatred; to have such disregard for fellow man? Was it the type of education he received that did the damage, he then passed on to another, through a bottle of acid? Was it an education – of how to remain ignorant and fearful, believing in lack; believing life is about taking, never giving back – that damaged him? What say we start to educate our children to believe they’re already full? What say we educate our children in love?

We can, through example, example, example. Show the child how to live a beautiful life and he will strive for this himself. Show the child a loving, stable, family environment, and he will strive to emulate this himself. When will we see: children really need nothing more.


Bulletproof and fearless of our pain


“If you believed the universe had a plan, what would it be? To propagate life? To just exist for the sake of existing? To grow and expand until it can grow no further?”

And what of us? You might think it follows, that if we’re part of a growing, expanding universe, we must grow and expand too. If we take a step back, we can certainly see evidence of this in some quarters, yet also see evidence of its opposite, in others.

The universe has a structure that works under some very strict and fundamental rules. It’s been said, that if there were only slight deviation from these rules of structure, the universe – as we know it – couldn’t have come into existence. Perhaps a different kind of universe would’ve come into being instead.

And so, when we have slight deviation from strict rules, either that, which would have been formed, doesn’t come into existence at all, or comes into existence in a way that is flawed, and as such, unrecognisable by us. Such a flaw, in anything, be it universes or life forms, will no doubt shorten its lifespan. For example, its said that several universes may have come into existence, long before the one we inhabit, yet due to their flawed nature, came and went in the blink of an eye.

Here and gone in the blink of an eye

“Does the universe morn these dead, early attempts? No, the universe expands, grows and thrives, as a result of these early failures.”

For many of us, it’s very hard to move on and let go of our past failures. Our feelings and fears get in the way of seeing things in a more rational light. When we do however, we free ourselves to see early mistakes and flawed creations, as something different. In fact, we can often see our early creations, as being there simply as a way of reminding us, we are never perfect. We are only ever perfectly imperfect, and yet sometimes, we even fall too short of this line, to survive.  

Parents of terminally ill children need the strength and courage to let go. Most of us wonder how they can possibly bear the pain of losing a sick child; a child they’ve created. However short a lifespan though, we can find a way to celebrate it, and learn from what this short life has taught us. In time, when we find these lessons of love – waiting to be understood – we become strong, so strong in fact, we become bulletproof and fearless of our pain. 


The Truth is Ignored Because it Hurts

Yep, games. Here’s the truth of the matter: We’re all just playing each other in order to get what we want. We’re playing each other in order to get what we believe makes us happy. Be it control, money, power, comfort, security, stability or perhaps just a hassle free, easy life, you’re playing those around you, and you’re being playing in return. They know it, you know it, and yet we continue the abuse.

Is it a bit strong or melodramatic to call this game abuse? Well, I don’t think so, and the reason I don’t think so, is because all the time we spend looking to get the upper hand over others, we’re actually missing the point. To call it abuse, is to raise our awareness of it’s destructive nature.

The point, of this whole experience of life, is to learn how to love each other, best treat each other, and understand how to respect the world around us. Take a step back and you – like me – will see that we really are missing the point. So wrapped up in ourselves are we, that we’re losing sight of our true objective.

To remain mindful of the importance of gaining greater understanding of love, how to respect the world and each other, is to pass this on to the next generation. Are we doing that? Or are we too busy looking to play each other for the upper hand and gain what we self-centerdly want from life? Of course we are.

The cure, as ever, is awareness. It can’t be my place to stand in judgement of my fellow man, I’m simply not qualified to do that. However, I am a realist, who’s able to see my own negative behaviour objectively, and then own up to it. So what if we stopped the games of the ego and actually loved each other instead?

Once we lose the need for power, and one-upmanship, something strange happens. We realise we actually need none of the tools necessary for the game. For example, the mother who buys the latest massive – ridiculously oversized car – to ferry the kids around, no longer needs it, once she losses the need for power and control. She will also lose the need to justify the ridiculous oversized (planet damaging) nature of her car as: “I need it to keep the kids safe.” Far better to learn how to drive defensively, surely?

Learning how to love is mainly about losing fear. Fear of looking inferior potentially drives the need for our excessiveness. Letting go of the need for power over each other enables us to focus on loving each other. There’s no love in playing each other for power, control, or gaining what we believe makes us happy. When we understand, happiness and love, are gained through letting go of the need for control and power, magic happens.

“We’re currently doing all the opposites of what’s required to gain love. This is potentially because we’ve lost sight of what love actually is. Most peculiar.”

To explain – and I’ve had a sense of this before – it’s almost as if we’re living inside the mirror opposite of the world we should be living in. When will we step out and see the true method?

A valuable experiment is to simply imagine the scenario where you have nothing. That’s right, absolutely nothing, except the clothes on your back. I believe that if we all either experienced this first hand, or we’re able to imagine it clearly enough, it would change our perception of what life needs to be. The first thing we need, in order to experience the full value of this experiment though, is confidence, or self-power. Some call it self-possessed. You know, the he’s very ‘self-possessed’ type comment. In other words we need courage.

Imagine the courage it would take to simply walk away from a life you know with only the clothes on your back. And not only this, what courage would it take to do this knowing you’re alone. I can tell you something right now: some homeless people are the bravest people you’ll ever meet. Brave, because they’ve had to accept the loneliness of it all.

“When loneliness changes to aloneness people are able to find love. Aloneness actually means something very different to loneliness.”

The constant need for wilfulness and the need to exert our will over others is destroying us. If we were to let this go – by becoming courageous – we’d have room for love. Love is empowerment yet only once we’ve lost the need for power, and then understand how we gain greater knowledge of love and ourselves, through giving it.

We’re not giving love through buying massive cars or playing each other for gain, these things are only symptoms of fear. Loving ourselves, is when we give of our time and attention, so others (most importantly future generations) may gain. Constantly feeding off each other is the behaviour of parasites. A parasitic nature will never be conducive to learning how best to love ourselves, each other, and our home. It starts with you.


Be Aware of Your Game


“To begin with it is important to establish an important proviso here: All of this is just a game”

Whether you like this idea or not, taking a moment to ponder on the concept of everything being a game, will prove to be beneficial to wellbeing, and ultimately your sense of contentment and happiness. It’s really about gaining a balanced sense of perspective.

We’re all playing our particular part in the overall game of life, and a particular, specific game as individuals. As a means of survival, the game you’re playing as an individual, has been devised over the time you’ve been alive. Your role in life is part of the game. When we ask: what is my role in life? We get to understand our purpose and direction.

And so, what is your role in life? What do you see as your purpose? Do you have a purpose? This last question is interesting, because even if you don’t see yourself as having purpose in life, this lack is also part of the game.

“Perhaps you have many roles and interests in life. You may be a mother or father yet also have interests outside of these roles. The more facets and aspects there are to your game, the more interesting your life”

Let’s take another example that’s a little more extreme. Let’s imagine you’re poor and homeless – you may want to add some colours here, perhaps there’s a sad background story, you might carry a lot of guilt and therefore have issues with drink or stronger drugs. We can ask: Why this game? Do you feel you have no choice in this? Are you simply compelled? Is there an element of control, or perhaps some kind of time frame to be played out? Even a homeless drunk, if it doesn’t kill him first,  will eventually tire of something pointless and so change the rules.

“Many homeless people will tell you their situation is through no fault of their own. Is this just another aspect of their game that changes once they take responsibility for themselves?” 

You see, pointless games, are played out by many of us for much of the time. It’s often the case that it has a time scale, and no matter how hard we try to step out of it – particularly one that’s self-destructive – we just seem compelled and powerless, to change it.

“This is where it becomes even more useful to see all of what we do as games”

It’s very empowering to see homelessness and addiction in this way; it implies some level of control. Sure there’s randomness within games (consider monopoly and the throw of dice) and yet we can choose to gain more skills within the game, and as such, play far more skilfully.


I clearly remember playing monopoly some years ago; the situation seemed hopeless. I was almost broke with few properties on the board, with my opponent possessing all the money and properties, in favourable positions. Interestingly enough, after about two hours of play, I actually won!

I remember, before each role of the dice, figuring out what numbers I needed them to fall on, to stay out of trouble, and which numbers I needed to fall, in order for me to gain the advantage. To my amazement – not to mention that of my opponents – the plan worked. Every time I threw the dice, they fell to my advantage, in the end my opponent was bankrupt.

The reason I was able to turn things around, I believe, was through awareness: I planned and worked out how I needed the dice to fall. Bear in mind, this was a random game of monopoly, with the random nature of throwing dice as a deciding factor. So with this in mind, imagine how we can influence our game of life, through increased awareness. We think we’re aware right now, yet the truth is, we’re barely aware at all.  

“More than anything we’re unaware of the rules of our own games. There’s no doubt, if I failed to understand the rules of monopoly, I’d have had absolutely no chance of winning”

So understanding the rules – of your own game – is essential. Firstly what are you playing? A winning game (happiness and well being) or a losing (suffering) one? Secondly, how, by whom and when, were the rules established? Who showed you how to play? Did you simply learn it through trial and error? What are you looking to win? Life or death? Most importantly, are the games you play virtuous? In other words, are you looking to make your game easier, believing this is done through the manipulation of others?

Manipulation of others is based on fear, so if this is one of your rules – rules taught you by others – stop, because fears ultimately become self-fulfilling, ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS.

You can influence the fall of the dice.

Awareness is the key. You can influence the fall of the dice with your awareness. Become aware of the role you’re fulfilling to gain the advantage. Are you the good or the bad guy? Which one are you? 

“Understanding gives advantage that can turn things around”

There is a set of rules that dictate how to find a life full of contentment and happiness. Unhappy and homeless is interesting for a while, however, as soon as we see it for what it is, through raising our awareness, we load the dice in our favour.

If you’re suffering just raise your awareness. What is the gameplay? In terms of the advantage, card or dice, what are you looking to achieve. For example, is the homeless man, through playing his homeless card, simply looking for someone else (society) to take care of him? In the long run this is often seen for what it is: gameplay that compensates for lack. Be this self-esteem, belief or simply an inability to stand on ones own two feet.


We must remember: every game has some kind of end goal. Consider the true story of the Indian lady who lived on the streets as a beggar for forty years. Eventually, she’d saved enough money, to buy her own home. Gameplay to fool the foolish?

What is the end goal of the game you’re playing?